Monday, October 21, 2013
Testimonial From a Parent
"Dear Dr. Sinert,
I wanted to thank you from the bottom of my heart for the changes your anger
management seminar did for our son. It made an instant impact but more
importantly has been long-lasting as well. We are very appreciative and know
that he has received the tools he needs to make wise choices when conflict
arises.
Gratefully,
R & D, Orange, CA"
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Thursday, September 5, 2013
GOOD POSITIVE BEHAVIOR #1 - RECONNECTING
RECONNECTING This is a bit complex to understand but let me try and make it simple.
The human brain has several parts. Let’s call one part the THINKING BRAIN. This is where our thoughts reside.
The other part can be called the EMOTIONAL BRAIN or the LIMBIC SYSTEM. This is where our emotions reside.
Now, when we sense we are being attacked, whether verbally, physically, psychologically or emotionally, we undergo a series of physiologic responses which are all automatic. You do not think about these responses. Rather, they are guided by the by the Emotional Brain and are directed by an almond shaped area within the emotional brain called the AMYGDALA.
The amygdala is sort of a radar system constantly surveying our surroundings and searching for attacks against us. When an attack is identified, the amygdala swings into instant action sending messages to our adrenal glands near the kidneys to produce two stress hormones. Also the amygdala shuts down the thinking brain. This is called an AMYGDALA HIJACK.
The first stress hormone is called EPINEPHRINE or more commonly ADRENALIN and the second is called CORTISOL.
Instantaneously, the adrenalin causes our heart rate to increase, our pulse rate to increase, our blood pressure to increase, our breathing to become shallow and our muscles to become tense. We are suddenly transformed into an engine raring to go. But we need fuel to make this happen and that’s where the cortisol comes in.
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The cortisol causes the liver to secrete glucose or sugar into our blood which is the fuel needed to respond to the attack.
And the aggressive response to the attack is known as the FIGHT or FLIGHT MECHANISM.
We will either fight back (fight) at the attacker or run away (flight) from the attacker.
Fighting back is the ANGRY REACTION. This is the aggressive behavior learned early in childhood which we use to express ANGER the emotion.
This entire process can happen in nanoseconds and can be measured. It is ENTIRELY AUTOMATIC. It does not require us to think about this response to a perceived attack.
Anger the emotion is totally normal. Its purpose is to protect us and keep us alive. What is not normal, however, is totally losing control of ourselves through the angry reaction I spoke of earlier. Remember, that is a response learned in childhood.
So, now let’s get back to RECONNECTING. This is the process we must use to counter the amygdala hijack of the thinking brain. We must be able to start that thinking brain up again so our behavior will be more normal and we will not become angry, raging people.
Reconnecting begins when we realize that we are under attack and instantaneously take action to avoid the angry reaction. It has been said that the time from the attack until anger surfaces can be as long as six or seven seconds or as short as several nanoseconds.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 South Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
(c) 2013 Dr. Steven J. Sinert and Nevada Anger Management, LLC
Tuesday, July 30, 2013
HURTFUL NEGATIVE BEHAVIOR # 8 - HOSTILITY
HOSTILITY or HOSTILE BEHAVIOR is attacking behavior in any form not mentioned in previous blogs.
Hostility or hostile behavior can occur in intimate relationships, in family relationships, in workplace relationships... frankly, even in non-personal situations where no relationship exists, other than on a very superficial level. An example of the latter may be one person disrespecting another, or even getting into a traffic accident with someone who is driving a new car.
Hostility can exist between people who have had previous arguments or altercations. Hostility can exist between people when one feels he or she has been treated unfairly. Hostility can exist in the workplace, in the home, between friends or intimate partners, or between family members. And this hostility can carry on for years. Perhaps you know of individuals who have not spoken to friends or relatives, or others, because they had an argument with them before, sometimes years before. When asked what the argument was about years before, they cannot even remember.
For more information, please contact
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Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 South Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
(c) 2013 Dr. Steven J. Sinert and Nevada Anger Management, LLC
Hostility or hostile behavior can occur in intimate relationships, in family relationships, in workplace relationships... frankly, even in non-personal situations where no relationship exists, other than on a very superficial level. An example of the latter may be one person disrespecting another, or even getting into a traffic accident with someone who is driving a new car.
Hostility can exist between people who have had previous arguments or altercations. Hostility can exist between people when one feels he or she has been treated unfairly. Hostility can exist in the workplace, in the home, between friends or intimate partners, or between family members. And this hostility can carry on for years. Perhaps you know of individuals who have not spoken to friends or relatives, or others, because they had an argument with them before, sometimes years before. When asked what the argument was about years before, they cannot even remember.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 South Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
(c) 2013 Dr. Steven J. Sinert and Nevada Anger Management, LLC
HURTFUL NEGATIVE BEHAVIOR # 7 - RAGING BEHAVIOR
RAGE is of course anger that is intense and out of control.
This occurs when the attacker is so frustrated and, not knowing how to react to an attack in an appropriate manner, he or she fumes, turns red, yells, or screams, throws things, becomes physically abusive or otherwise aggressive and violent.
When someone is raging against us, the effect upon us is that of an attack. If we respond with equal aggression and rage the episode may well be cause for calling the police who may very well arrest the raging person and charge them with domestic violence or assault or worse, can which result in court proceedings, legal fees, fines, and court mandates for classes in anger management, domestic violence or other forms of behavior control or even jail time.
Rage is a serious hurtful negative behavior because in severe cases it may lead to actual bodily harm to the person who is attacked.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 South Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
(c) 2013 Dr. Steven J. Sinert and Nevada Anger Management, LLC
This occurs when the attacker is so frustrated and, not knowing how to react to an attack in an appropriate manner, he or she fumes, turns red, yells, or screams, throws things, becomes physically abusive or otherwise aggressive and violent.
When someone is raging against us, the effect upon us is that of an attack. If we respond with equal aggression and rage the episode may well be cause for calling the police who may very well arrest the raging person and charge them with domestic violence or assault or worse, can which result in court proceedings, legal fees, fines, and court mandates for classes in anger management, domestic violence or other forms of behavior control or even jail time.
Rage is a serious hurtful negative behavior because in severe cases it may lead to actual bodily harm to the person who is attacked.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 South Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
(c) 2013 Dr. Steven J. Sinert and Nevada Anger Management, LLC
HURTFUL NEGATIVE BEHAVIOR #6 - INTERRUPTING
INTERRUPTING is breaking into a conversation when someone else is speaking, or inserting yourself in another's conversation; the interrupting behavior can also occur when someone is trying to influence another person who is busy not only with a conversation but also with a project or event which they are not part and parcel to. Interrupting is actually taking away another person's right to speak or spend their own time.
This interrupting behavior is aggressive and hurtful to the targeted individual. How do you feel when someone interrupts your conversation or personal time? In most cases you may feel attacked and as in other hurtful negative behaviors you may attack back with aggression and the angry reaction.
You might say that everyone interrupts when you're speaking. But interruption is rude and in many cases unacceptable behavior. Is there ever a good time for interrupting someone? Yes, when an emergency or some danger exists which may actually be a rare occurrence.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 South Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
(c) 2013 Dr. Steven J. Sinert and Nevada Anger Management, LLC
This interrupting behavior is aggressive and hurtful to the targeted individual. How do you feel when someone interrupts your conversation or personal time? In most cases you may feel attacked and as in other hurtful negative behaviors you may attack back with aggression and the angry reaction.
You might say that everyone interrupts when you're speaking. But interruption is rude and in many cases unacceptable behavior. Is there ever a good time for interrupting someone? Yes, when an emergency or some danger exists which may actually be a rare occurrence.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 South Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
(c) 2013 Dr. Steven J. Sinert and Nevada Anger Management, LLC
HURTFUL NEGATIVE BEHAVIORS #5 - MANIPULATION
MANIPULATING BEHAVIOR is yet another Hurtful Negative Behavior. This is very similar to Controlling Behavior discussed in an earlier blog. I like to consider manipulation as UNDERHANDED CONTROL but control is very direct and to the point, whereas manipulation is rather indirect. Like control it's an attempt to gain one's own advantage using shrewd or devious influence and it's just as hurtful.
CONTROL might sound like, "Don't do that!", but MANIPULATION might sound like, "Don't you think it would be better not to do that?"
When someone tries to manipulate you they are actually trying to get the upper hand over you. This behavior is common, for example, by a salesperson who is trying to get you to make a purchase like, say, an automobile. They want the advantage over you.
In a relationship between intimate partners, whether heterosexual or gay, one person is trying in an indirect way to control the other. No matter your sexual orientation, manipulation is still hurtful to the targeted individual and aggressive in nature and like
other negative behaviors can be perceived as an attack which will elicit an attack back or the angry reaction.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 South Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
(c) 2013 Dr. Steven J. Sinert and Nevada Anger Management, LLC
CONTROL might sound like, "Don't do that!", but MANIPULATION might sound like, "Don't you think it would be better not to do that?"
When someone tries to manipulate you they are actually trying to get the upper hand over you. This behavior is common, for example, by a salesperson who is trying to get you to make a purchase like, say, an automobile. They want the advantage over you.
In a relationship between intimate partners, whether heterosexual or gay, one person is trying in an indirect way to control the other. No matter your sexual orientation, manipulation is still hurtful to the targeted individual and aggressive in nature and like
other negative behaviors can be perceived as an attack which will elicit an attack back or the angry reaction.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 South Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
(c) 2013 Dr. Steven J. Sinert and Nevada Anger Management, LLC
HURTFUL NEGATIVE BEHAVIORS #4 - INTIMIDATION
Another hurtful negative behavior is INTIMIDATING BEHAVIOR.
INTIMIDATION is another form of attacking behavior or aggression usually using fear. It involves making the other person feel small, or useless. Again, just ask yourself how you feel if someone tries to intimidate you. Most of the time you feel hurt and less of a person than the one who has attacked you.
Intimidation is a form of behavior with the other person where we try to get the upper hand over the other individual. This makes us feel more in control and bigger, in our own eyes, than the other individual. Why is this necessary for us? Many people have low self-esteem or a feeling of low self worth. How better to increase our own self-esteem, even temporarily, than to make someone else feel useless, less knowledgeable, beneath us or smaller than us. Also, if we are highly educated, we may try to use that against the other person to again make us feel even larger in stature.
When intimidated, we may strike back with anger at the individual who attacked us or we may just avoid the confrontation by holding it in. By not solving the problem immediately, we set ourselves up for a more volatile reaction in the future. Also many people who do not respond immediately to the person who intimidates us have low assertive skills which need to be developed, strengthened or enhanced.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 South Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
(c) 2013 Dr. Steven J. Sinert and Nevada Anger Management, LLC
INTIMIDATION is another form of attacking behavior or aggression usually using fear. It involves making the other person feel small, or useless. Again, just ask yourself how you feel if someone tries to intimidate you. Most of the time you feel hurt and less of a person than the one who has attacked you.
Intimidation is a form of behavior with the other person where we try to get the upper hand over the other individual. This makes us feel more in control and bigger, in our own eyes, than the other individual. Why is this necessary for us? Many people have low self-esteem or a feeling of low self worth. How better to increase our own self-esteem, even temporarily, than to make someone else feel useless, less knowledgeable, beneath us or smaller than us. Also, if we are highly educated, we may try to use that against the other person to again make us feel even larger in stature.
When intimidated, we may strike back with anger at the individual who attacked us or we may just avoid the confrontation by holding it in. By not solving the problem immediately, we set ourselves up for a more volatile reaction in the future. Also many people who do not respond immediately to the person who intimidates us have low assertive skills which need to be developed, strengthened or enhanced.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 South Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
(c) 2013 Dr. Steven J. Sinert and Nevada Anger Management, LLC
HURTFUL NEGATIVE BEHAVIORS #3 - INATTENTION
The next hurtful behavior I will discuss is INATTENTION.
INATTENTION is just not paying attention to another person. It is hurtful behavior if it's directed at a loved one, such as a husband or wife, boyfriend or girlfriend or other person close to us. Just ask yourself how you feel when someone does not pay attention to you. It hurts doesn't it? And when you do that to someone else it hurts them. It's an attack!
In order to avoid anger between ourselves and others we must stop attacking them and we need to learn how to respond in an appropriate fashion to those attacks they perpetrate upon us. We must learn about our own feelings and the feelings of others and how to manage our own personal behavior and how to manage our relationships in a better way.
You may ask, if they love us, why are they attacking us? The answer is that people learn attacking behavior or aggressiveness at an early age. For most of us, aggressive behavior is the way get what we want in life. It becomes a normal behavior for us when we have little understanding of our own feelings and the feelings of others. It may be that the other person, the one attacking us, just doesn't know any better. And that has nothing to do with formal education.
Physicians, attorneys, scientists, teachers, business executives, high school graduates, college graduates, PhD's...actually everyone has the potential to become angry when they sense they're being attacked. The angry reaction is an aggressive attack back at the attacker.
If you want to control your anger, you must control your aggression and learn new ways to behave toward your loved ones and those close to you.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 South Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
(c) 2013 Dr. Steven J. Sinert and Nevada Anger Management, LLC
INATTENTION is just not paying attention to another person. It is hurtful behavior if it's directed at a loved one, such as a husband or wife, boyfriend or girlfriend or other person close to us. Just ask yourself how you feel when someone does not pay attention to you. It hurts doesn't it? And when you do that to someone else it hurts them. It's an attack!
In order to avoid anger between ourselves and others we must stop attacking them and we need to learn how to respond in an appropriate fashion to those attacks they perpetrate upon us. We must learn about our own feelings and the feelings of others and how to manage our own personal behavior and how to manage our relationships in a better way.
You may ask, if they love us, why are they attacking us? The answer is that people learn attacking behavior or aggressiveness at an early age. For most of us, aggressive behavior is the way get what we want in life. It becomes a normal behavior for us when we have little understanding of our own feelings and the feelings of others. It may be that the other person, the one attacking us, just doesn't know any better. And that has nothing to do with formal education.
Physicians, attorneys, scientists, teachers, business executives, high school graduates, college graduates, PhD's...actually everyone has the potential to become angry when they sense they're being attacked. The angry reaction is an aggressive attack back at the attacker.
If you want to control your anger, you must control your aggression and learn new ways to behave toward your loved ones and those close to you.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 South Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
(c) 2013 Dr. Steven J. Sinert and Nevada Anger Management, LLC
HURTFUL NEGATIVE BEHAVIOR #2 - AVOIDANCE
Today, I would like to talk about another negative hurtful behavior, AVOIDANCE.
AVOIDANCE means, as it implies, deliberately avoiding another individual who has attacked us, or preventing the resolution of a problem.
Avoidance is turning your back toward someone who has hurt you or sweeping the problem under the rug. The problem does not go away when we avoid solving it. To the contrary, the problem remains within us and festers, building pressure like the pressure on lava in a volcano. When this occurs it primes us for the next time we are attacked and then we can explode in uncontrolled anger and rage, becoming physical or violent toward the individual who we sense has attacked us. This physical or violent reaction can be as simple as throwing something at the attacker, punching a hole in the wall, kicking in a door, or physically attacking back at the one who has attacked us. This physical behavior can lead to an arrest for DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, a court case, legal bills and/or fines or other court mandates.
People with low self-esteem or undeveloped assertive skills tend to hold things in. HOLDING THINGS IN IS NOT THE ANSWER! Rather, communicating your feelings and needs to the other person is the answer, in other words becoming more assertive.
Many people think that ASSERTIVENESS is akin to AGGRESSIVENESS. This is not true. Assertiveness is not attacking another person as is aggressiveness. I will direct my attention to assertiveness in a future blog on POSITIVE GOOD BEHAVIORS.
Try not to avoid issues. Solve them! Don't turn your back on someone. Solve the problem! Don't go to sleep mad at your mate. Communicate to resolve your problems!
We all face attacks from others every day of our lives. And everyday we will attack others and they will attack back at us. How we respond to those attacks will determine whether we have issues requiring an ANGER MANAGEMENT program.
In our ANGER MANAGEMENT program I teach about the attacks that come at us and those that we use against others.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 South Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
(c) 2013 Dr. Steven J. Sinert and Nevada Anger Management, LLC
AVOIDANCE means, as it implies, deliberately avoiding another individual who has attacked us, or preventing the resolution of a problem.
Avoidance is turning your back toward someone who has hurt you or sweeping the problem under the rug. The problem does not go away when we avoid solving it. To the contrary, the problem remains within us and festers, building pressure like the pressure on lava in a volcano. When this occurs it primes us for the next time we are attacked and then we can explode in uncontrolled anger and rage, becoming physical or violent toward the individual who we sense has attacked us. This physical or violent reaction can be as simple as throwing something at the attacker, punching a hole in the wall, kicking in a door, or physically attacking back at the one who has attacked us. This physical behavior can lead to an arrest for DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, a court case, legal bills and/or fines or other court mandates.
People with low self-esteem or undeveloped assertive skills tend to hold things in. HOLDING THINGS IN IS NOT THE ANSWER! Rather, communicating your feelings and needs to the other person is the answer, in other words becoming more assertive.
Many people think that ASSERTIVENESS is akin to AGGRESSIVENESS. This is not true. Assertiveness is not attacking another person as is aggressiveness. I will direct my attention to assertiveness in a future blog on POSITIVE GOOD BEHAVIORS.
Try not to avoid issues. Solve them! Don't turn your back on someone. Solve the problem! Don't go to sleep mad at your mate. Communicate to resolve your problems!
We all face attacks from others every day of our lives. And everyday we will attack others and they will attack back at us. How we respond to those attacks will determine whether we have issues requiring an ANGER MANAGEMENT program.
In our ANGER MANAGEMENT program I teach about the attacks that come at us and those that we use against others.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 South Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
(c) 2013 Dr. Steven J. Sinert and Nevada Anger Management, LLC
Monday, July 29, 2013
HURTFUL NEGATIVE BEHAVIOR #1 - CONTROL
The first Hurtful Negative Behavior I want to talk about is CONTROLLING BEHAVIOR.
So, what is Controlling Behavior?
It's making the other person do what you want rather than allowing them to do what they want. It's taking away a person's right to make their own decisions. Simply put, it's a POWER PLAY against someone else. It's aggressive and hurtful to the individual who is the object of the controlling behavior. Likewise, if that behavior is addressed towards us, it's just as hurtful.
Where does this behavior arise? It's a behavior pattern that is learned in early childhood and carried forth into adolescence and adulthood. We learn early on that by being controlling we can get what we want or need.
Aggressiveness is an attack upon us! Most people will respond to the attack by attacking back or running away. This is the well-known FIGHT OR FLIGHT response.
But aggression is not the only way to get what we want or need.
Learning EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE, STRESS MANAGEMENT techniques and improving our COMMUNICATION skills are all appropriate ways to reduce aggression. Instead of fighting back or running away, we need to understand how we feel about ourselves and how we feel about our self worth or self esteem. Additionally we need to understand the feelings of others.
All of this should be learned in an Anger Management program. I will continue to write about the other hurtful behaviors in future blogs and then I will switch to the good positive behaviors.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
(c) 2013 Dr. Steven J. Sinert and Nevada Anger Management, LLC
So, what is Controlling Behavior?
It's making the other person do what you want rather than allowing them to do what they want. It's taking away a person's right to make their own decisions. Simply put, it's a POWER PLAY against someone else. It's aggressive and hurtful to the individual who is the object of the controlling behavior. Likewise, if that behavior is addressed towards us, it's just as hurtful.
Where does this behavior arise? It's a behavior pattern that is learned in early childhood and carried forth into adolescence and adulthood. We learn early on that by being controlling we can get what we want or need.
Aggressiveness is an attack upon us! Most people will respond to the attack by attacking back or running away. This is the well-known FIGHT OR FLIGHT response.
But aggression is not the only way to get what we want or need.
Learning EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE, STRESS MANAGEMENT techniques and improving our COMMUNICATION skills are all appropriate ways to reduce aggression. Instead of fighting back or running away, we need to understand how we feel about ourselves and how we feel about our self worth or self esteem. Additionally we need to understand the feelings of others.
All of this should be learned in an Anger Management program. I will continue to write about the other hurtful behaviors in future blogs and then I will switch to the good positive behaviors.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
(c) 2013 Dr. Steven J. Sinert and Nevada Anger Management, LLC
Saturday, July 6, 2013
ANGER MANAGEMENT IS NOT THERAPY
Most people have anger issues. Does that create a need for therapy? My opinion is that it does not!
Just because you experience the ANGRY REACTION does not mean you are mentally ill or crazy for which therapy might prove useful.
The ANGRY REACTION is an aggressive form of behavior that is the expression of the emotion we call ANGER. This reaction follows the well known “FIGHT or FLIGHT” mechanism inherent in the behavior of ALL animals. We, as humans, are animals and not different in our behaviors from dogs, cats or even lions and zebras except that we have larger brains with the capacity to think and reason.
So what’s the problem?
When we are children, we learn the ANGRY REACTION from our parents, siblings or from movies, TV or even video games. Usually, by the age of two to three this behavior is set within us. This reaction forms a memory, is stored in our brain, and is the automatic response we exhibit WHEN WE PERCEIVE OR SENSE WE ARE BEING ATTACKED. Our brain functions much like a juke-box in this regard. When our so called buttons are pushed, the immediate response is that automatic Angry Reaction. Many times it’s hurtful behavior and it's always aggressive toward the attacker.
So, what’s the solution?
The solution is to learn the techniques to gain control of ourselves, to reduce our aggressive behaviors, to manage our stresses more efficiently, to begin to understand our own emotions as well as the emotions of others and to improve our communication skills.
Unfortunately, these things are not taught in our schools. Actually, our aggressiveness is enhanced via sports activities, later on by military training, by the movies we watch, by the news we read about and very often by the very jobs we hold and the education we receive for those positions.
So, the solution is to change one’s behavior by learning the skills you never learned before and reducing one’s aggressiveness. This is accomplished easily in an ANGER MANAGEMENT PROGRAM and not in therapy.
To repeat, just because you experience the ANGRY REACTION does not mean you are mentally ill or crazy! It just means that you have never learned to express your anger in an appropriate way through assertive communication.
We all have experienced that Angry Reaction especially with people we love and with whom we are very close to. We would all do well to remain civil in our interpersonal relationships and learn to treat others with respect and love.
Remember, Life should be a Celebration and not an Endurance Contest.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 South Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 – 353 – 1750
dr.sinert@nevaaangermanagement.com
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
Just because you experience the ANGRY REACTION does not mean you are mentally ill or crazy for which therapy might prove useful.
The ANGRY REACTION is an aggressive form of behavior that is the expression of the emotion we call ANGER. This reaction follows the well known “FIGHT or FLIGHT” mechanism inherent in the behavior of ALL animals. We, as humans, are animals and not different in our behaviors from dogs, cats or even lions and zebras except that we have larger brains with the capacity to think and reason.
So what’s the problem?
When we are children, we learn the ANGRY REACTION from our parents, siblings or from movies, TV or even video games. Usually, by the age of two to three this behavior is set within us. This reaction forms a memory, is stored in our brain, and is the automatic response we exhibit WHEN WE PERCEIVE OR SENSE WE ARE BEING ATTACKED. Our brain functions much like a juke-box in this regard. When our so called buttons are pushed, the immediate response is that automatic Angry Reaction. Many times it’s hurtful behavior and it's always aggressive toward the attacker.
So, what’s the solution?
The solution is to learn the techniques to gain control of ourselves, to reduce our aggressive behaviors, to manage our stresses more efficiently, to begin to understand our own emotions as well as the emotions of others and to improve our communication skills.
Unfortunately, these things are not taught in our schools. Actually, our aggressiveness is enhanced via sports activities, later on by military training, by the movies we watch, by the news we read about and very often by the very jobs we hold and the education we receive for those positions.
So, the solution is to change one’s behavior by learning the skills you never learned before and reducing one’s aggressiveness. This is accomplished easily in an ANGER MANAGEMENT PROGRAM and not in therapy.
To repeat, just because you experience the ANGRY REACTION does not mean you are mentally ill or crazy! It just means that you have never learned to express your anger in an appropriate way through assertive communication.
We all have experienced that Angry Reaction especially with people we love and with whom we are very close to. We would all do well to remain civil in our interpersonal relationships and learn to treat others with respect and love.
Remember, Life should be a Celebration and not an Endurance Contest.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 South Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 – 353 – 1750
dr.sinert@nevaaangermanagement.com
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
Wednesday, June 19, 2013
LIFE IS A CELEBRATION, NOT AN ENDURANCE CONTEST
Intimate relationships should be pleasant experiences where there is love, mutual respect, enjoying of each other’s company and sharing of ideas, thoughts and experiences. In essence, sharing our lives.
Yet in many relationships there is anger and aggressive behavior. From where does this behavior come?
Most anger and aggressive behavior stems from our childhood. Learning the ANGRY REACTION is nearly complete by the age of two to three. We learn this from our parents and siblings. Then we carry it forward as we grow and mature into adulthood.
The aggressive behaviors of INATTENTION, INTIMIDATION, CONTROL, MANIPULATION, AVOIDANCE, INTERRUPTION, RAGE and HOSTILITY are all HURTFUL behaviors when perpetrated upon us or when we use them against others.
Either way the receiving party of these behaviors will usually respond either with AGGRESSION or with PASSIVE BEHAVIOR. If it’s aggression, it’s called ANGER. If it’s passive, it’s called AVOIDANCE.
Avoidance may also be a sign of low self-esteem and poor assertive skills.
In any event, our response to the hurtful, aggressive behavior we sense is also hurtful and aggressive behavior back at the attacking party. So at first we are victims of aggression, then we become perpetrators of aggression towards someone whom we may in fact share an intimate relationship. This back and forth behavior is your basic argument.
And this brings me back to the BLOG title above. LIFE is not an endurance contest. Sure we can fight back at our attackers using more attacks against them, by raising our voices and yelling, by even getting physical or even violent. NONE of this behavior nurtures our relationships and improves them. To the contrary, the relationships are harmed, some beyond repair. (Just look at the divorce rates!)
So how can this hurtful behavior we experience be resolved?
Our ANGER MANAGEMENT program will teach you new ways of behaving, how to respond to the attacks of others, how to stop being aggressive toward your loved ones, how to be more assertive, how to express your anger in a good and appropriate way, how to boost your self-esteem, how to improve your management of stress, how to understand your emotions and the emotions of others and how to improve your communication skills. Our program is NOT therapy but rather sskill enhancement.
Make your life a CELEBRATION not an ENDURANCE contest.
We offer anger management in group or private sessions and also privately for couples or others in sensitive occupations.
For more information, please call
Dr. Steven J. Sinert
Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
Yet in many relationships there is anger and aggressive behavior. From where does this behavior come?
Most anger and aggressive behavior stems from our childhood. Learning the ANGRY REACTION is nearly complete by the age of two to three. We learn this from our parents and siblings. Then we carry it forward as we grow and mature into adulthood.
The aggressive behaviors of INATTENTION, INTIMIDATION, CONTROL, MANIPULATION, AVOIDANCE, INTERRUPTION, RAGE and HOSTILITY are all HURTFUL behaviors when perpetrated upon us or when we use them against others.
Either way the receiving party of these behaviors will usually respond either with AGGRESSION or with PASSIVE BEHAVIOR. If it’s aggression, it’s called ANGER. If it’s passive, it’s called AVOIDANCE.
Avoidance may also be a sign of low self-esteem and poor assertive skills.
In any event, our response to the hurtful, aggressive behavior we sense is also hurtful and aggressive behavior back at the attacking party. So at first we are victims of aggression, then we become perpetrators of aggression towards someone whom we may in fact share an intimate relationship. This back and forth behavior is your basic argument.
And this brings me back to the BLOG title above. LIFE is not an endurance contest. Sure we can fight back at our attackers using more attacks against them, by raising our voices and yelling, by even getting physical or even violent. NONE of this behavior nurtures our relationships and improves them. To the contrary, the relationships are harmed, some beyond repair. (Just look at the divorce rates!)
So how can this hurtful behavior we experience be resolved?
Our ANGER MANAGEMENT program will teach you new ways of behaving, how to respond to the attacks of others, how to stop being aggressive toward your loved ones, how to be more assertive, how to express your anger in a good and appropriate way, how to boost your self-esteem, how to improve your management of stress, how to understand your emotions and the emotions of others and how to improve your communication skills. Our program is NOT therapy but rather sskill enhancement.
Make your life a CELEBRATION not an ENDURANCE contest.
We offer anger management in group or private sessions and also privately for couples or others in sensitive occupations.
For more information, please call
Dr. Steven J. Sinert
Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
Monday, June 10, 2013
What is Anger Management?
Anger Management is not only a movie and a television show, but also, and more importantly, learning a better way to behave. It requires effort and some study but is not difficult.
It involves Gaining Control of oneself, Stress Management training, enhancing Emotional Intelligence and improving Communications skills with the people we love and are closest to. These are the ones we get angry with most often.
The behaviors we show to these loved ones are usually hurtful. If we love our wives and husbands, our children, our parents and siblings, why do we continue to hurt them?
The answer is that we just don't know any better way to behave. This program is well recognized will certainly change your life.
My Anger Management program teaches you how to behave in a better way without aggression or anger, how to manage your stresses better, how to improve your emotional intelligence and how to improve your communication skills, all of which will improve your life.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road – Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
It involves Gaining Control of oneself, Stress Management training, enhancing Emotional Intelligence and improving Communications skills with the people we love and are closest to. These are the ones we get angry with most often.
The behaviors we show to these loved ones are usually hurtful. If we love our wives and husbands, our children, our parents and siblings, why do we continue to hurt them?
The answer is that we just don't know any better way to behave. This program is well recognized will certainly change your life.
My Anger Management program teaches you how to behave in a better way without aggression or anger, how to manage your stresses better, how to improve your emotional intelligence and how to improve your communication skills, all of which will improve your life.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road – Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
Improving Communication Skills
Miscommunications or lack of good skills at communicating with others, especially those closest to us, is another major source of anger and the angry reaction.
We must learn to speak clearly and honestly so there are no miscommunications and therefore less of an opportunity to create that perception of an attack in others or in ourselves. Remember, that attack causes us to respond with the Angry Reaction.
In my program, the essence of our communications with others is to be assertive and not aggressive, letting others know how we feel and what we need that will make us feel better and how to make others feel good.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road – Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
Email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
We must learn to speak clearly and honestly so there are no miscommunications and therefore less of an opportunity to create that perception of an attack in others or in ourselves. Remember, that attack causes us to respond with the Angry Reaction.
In my program, the essence of our communications with others is to be assertive and not aggressive, letting others know how we feel and what we need that will make us feel better and how to make others feel good.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road – Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
Email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
Emotional Intelligence
Emotional Intelligence
Emotional Intelligence is a term which basically means being aware of our own emotions and managing our behavior in an appropriate way without anger or aggression based on those emotions AND being aware of the emotions of others (also called empathy)and managing our relationships again without aggression or anger.
The separate domains of Emotional Intelligence, namely self-awareness, self-management, social awareness and relationship management, can be measured and evaluated and finally adjusted so we are more able to live a life without anger and aggression.
In our program enhancing one's emotional intelligence is of primary importance because it improves our behavior and limits our angry reactions.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road – Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
Email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
Emotional Intelligence is a term which basically means being aware of our own emotions and managing our behavior in an appropriate way without anger or aggression based on those emotions AND being aware of the emotions of others (also called empathy)and managing our relationships again without aggression or anger.
The separate domains of Emotional Intelligence, namely self-awareness, self-management, social awareness and relationship management, can be measured and evaluated and finally adjusted so we are more able to live a life without anger and aggression.
In our program enhancing one's emotional intelligence is of primary importance because it improves our behavior and limits our angry reactions.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road – Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
Email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
Stress and Anger
Stress and Anger
So what is STRESS? It’s a force which creates mental or physical tension within us. Stress can be either negative (bad) or positive (good). An example of negative stress can be a perceived attack against us. An example of a positive stress can be how we feel after purchasing something new which we like.
Stress from all sources contributes to our Angry Reaction by creating a feeling of frustration within us, a sense of insecurity and dissatisfaction arising from unresolved problems or unfulfilled needs or by a sense of disappointment.
Once we feel frustrated anger and the angry reaction is close behind.
In a nutshell, stress leads to frustration which leads to anger.
In my program, it is essential to controlling your anger to become aware of the stresses we face on a daily basis, how to accept those stresses and how to cope with them. We teach you useful tools to master them.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified Anger Management Provider
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road – Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
Email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
So what is STRESS? It’s a force which creates mental or physical tension within us. Stress can be either negative (bad) or positive (good). An example of negative stress can be a perceived attack against us. An example of a positive stress can be how we feel after purchasing something new which we like.
Stress from all sources contributes to our Angry Reaction by creating a feeling of frustration within us, a sense of insecurity and dissatisfaction arising from unresolved problems or unfulfilled needs or by a sense of disappointment.
Once we feel frustrated anger and the angry reaction is close behind.
In a nutshell, stress leads to frustration which leads to anger.
In my program, it is essential to controlling your anger to become aware of the stresses we face on a daily basis, how to accept those stresses and how to cope with them. We teach you useful tools to master them.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified Anger Management Provider
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road – Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
Email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
Anger the Emotion
Anger the Emotion
Anger is a normal emotion designed to protect us and keep us alive. It was significantly more important in the days of the caveman perhaps 100,000 to one million years ago. The Angry Reaction is the way we express Anger the Emotion.
That reaction is an automatic response to our perception that we are being attacked. And those attacks come at us very frequently as verbal assaults, physical assaults or psychological or emotional assaults from others.
The angry reaction is a learned response which was instilled within us at a very early age. It is an automatic response. We do not think about it when we’re attacked. It is spontaneous and gets us into all kinds of difficulty with those closest to us.
In my Anger Management program, I teach you about those assaults, those attacks, that come at us on a daily basis and how to recognize them and how to respond to them in an appropriate manner without getting angry.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road – Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
Email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
Anger is a normal emotion designed to protect us and keep us alive. It was significantly more important in the days of the caveman perhaps 100,000 to one million years ago. The Angry Reaction is the way we express Anger the Emotion.
That reaction is an automatic response to our perception that we are being attacked. And those attacks come at us very frequently as verbal assaults, physical assaults or psychological or emotional assaults from others.
The angry reaction is a learned response which was instilled within us at a very early age. It is an automatic response. We do not think about it when we’re attacked. It is spontaneous and gets us into all kinds of difficulty with those closest to us.
In my Anger Management program, I teach you about those assaults, those attacks, that come at us on a daily basis and how to recognize them and how to respond to them in an appropriate manner without getting angry.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road – Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
Email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
Friday, June 7, 2013
From the Mother of a Teenage Student
"Hi Dr. Sinert, I just wanted to let you know that my son faxed you a letter today thanking you for helping him make his journey through life with less anger and frustration.
I was happy to read that he was able to see clearly that he was a frustrated, angry, know it all teenager when he first started coming to you for anger management guidance and counseling and now he's able to direct his frustration in a positive way. I'm so grateful to you and highly recommend your program for all teenagers and adults too!
I work with many medical professionals who have teenagers like my son and I have referred them to you. As parents of teenagers, we all have many of the same concerns regarding our children and you are a GODSEND!! Thank you Dr. Sinert! I will remember you forever and pray for you often. BC, Las Vegas, NV June 4, 2013"
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 South Pecos Road Road - Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
"Hi Dr. Sinert, I just wanted to let you know that my son faxed you a letter today thanking you for helping him make his journey through life with less anger and frustration.
I was happy to read that he was able to see clearly that he was a frustrated, angry, know it all teenager when he first started coming to you for anger management guidance and counseling and now he's able to direct his frustration in a positive way. I'm so grateful to you and highly recommend your program for all teenagers and adults too!
I work with many medical professionals who have teenagers like my son and I have referred them to you. As parents of teenagers, we all have many of the same concerns regarding our children and you are a GODSEND!! Thank you Dr. Sinert! I will remember you forever and pray for you often. BC, Las Vegas, NV June 4, 2013"
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 South Pecos Road Road - Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
From a Teenage Student
"Dr. Sinert, I would like to thank you from the bottom of my heart. When I first came to you I was an angry and frustrated teenager who thought I knew it all and that I could handle all my problems on my own. In these past few months you have shown me that the things that I was doing to express my anger were not acceptable or appropriate.
You have given me the tools to successfully express my feelings in a constructive and healthy way. You have taught me that anger is a normal part of life and that it can be controlled.
I truly appreciate all of the things that you've done for me these 10 sessions. I now handle every situation in which I would previously react angrily, with calmness and patience. I no longer snap over every little thing.
Since completing my sessions with you, I have seen a great change in my relationships with my peers, my mother, and other important people in my life. I make use of my once dormant skills of empathy and caring. I treat others the way I would want to be treated make them feel good whenever possible.
I see many differences in others as well since my transformation. They have responded to my positive behavior and treated me positively in return.
Every day for me is now filled with joy and happiness thanks to you. I don't know where I would be now or how I would react to things that once made me upset if it hadn't been for you, Dr. Sinert.
I greatly appreciate everything that you have done for me and everything you taught me. I see now that I don't know everything and that I have control over no one but myself. I don't need to be a policeman trying to tell others what to do. I just need to focus on my own attitudes and behaviors.
Thank you for opening my eyes to all of these things. I greatly appreciate you. Sincerely, JC, June 4, 2013, Las Vegas, NV"
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 South Pecos Road - Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
"Dr. Sinert, I would like to thank you from the bottom of my heart. When I first came to you I was an angry and frustrated teenager who thought I knew it all and that I could handle all my problems on my own. In these past few months you have shown me that the things that I was doing to express my anger were not acceptable or appropriate.
You have given me the tools to successfully express my feelings in a constructive and healthy way. You have taught me that anger is a normal part of life and that it can be controlled.
I truly appreciate all of the things that you've done for me these 10 sessions. I now handle every situation in which I would previously react angrily, with calmness and patience. I no longer snap over every little thing.
Since completing my sessions with you, I have seen a great change in my relationships with my peers, my mother, and other important people in my life. I make use of my once dormant skills of empathy and caring. I treat others the way I would want to be treated make them feel good whenever possible.
I see many differences in others as well since my transformation. They have responded to my positive behavior and treated me positively in return.
Every day for me is now filled with joy and happiness thanks to you. I don't know where I would be now or how I would react to things that once made me upset if it hadn't been for you, Dr. Sinert.
I greatly appreciate everything that you have done for me and everything you taught me. I see now that I don't know everything and that I have control over no one but myself. I don't need to be a policeman trying to tell others what to do. I just need to focus on my own attitudes and behaviors.
Thank you for opening my eyes to all of these things. I greatly appreciate you. Sincerely, JC, June 4, 2013, Las Vegas, NV"
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 South Pecos Road - Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
Thursday, April 18, 2013
From A Student's Mother
"Sometimes things happen in life to steer us on a different path than when we first started out and I realize that if your path hadn't changed earlier in your life, we wouldn't have had the pleasure of knowing you nor obtaining the excellent education you are providing about Anger Management to my son. The instructor makes all the difference when one is taking a class. You are AWESOME Dr. Sinert!!!" - BC, Las Vegas, NV
For more information, please call me at 702 353 1750
Dr. Steven J. Sinert
Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
"Sometimes things happen in life to steer us on a different path than when we first started out and I realize that if your path hadn't changed earlier in your life, we wouldn't have had the pleasure of knowing you nor obtaining the excellent education you are providing about Anger Management to my son. The instructor makes all the difference when one is taking a class. You are AWESOME Dr. Sinert!!!" - BC, Las Vegas, NV
For more information, please call me at 702 353 1750
Dr. Steven J. Sinert
Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
Wednesday, April 3, 2013
The 90/10 Principle
Discover the 90/10 Principle…it will change your life (or at least the way you react to situations)…
What is the Principle?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you…90% is decided by how you react…
What does this mean?
We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us…We have no control over this 10%...
The other 90% is different…You determine the other 90%...
How? By your reactions…
You cannot control a red traffic light…However you can control how you react…
Do Not let people fool you…You can control how you react…
Let us use the following example…
Say you are having breakfast with your family…Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt…
You have no control over what just happened…
What happens next will be determined by how you react…
You curse!...You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over…She breaks down in tears…
After scolding her, you turn to your wife and you criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows…
You storm upstairs to change your shirt…
Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish her breakfast and to get ready to go to school…she misses the bus…
Your spouse must immediately leave for work…
You rush to your car and drive your daughter to school…
Because you’re late, you drive 40 miles per hour in a 30 mph speed limit zone…You get pulled over for speeding…after a 15 minute delay and a huge traffic fine…you finally get her to school late…
She jumps out of the car and runs into the school without saying goodbye to you…
After arriving at your office late you realize that you forgot your briefcase…
Your day has started terribly. As it continues it just gets worse and worse. You look forward to going home…
When you arrive home, you find a small wedge in your relationship between your wife and daughter…
Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning…
Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is D!
You had no control over what happened with the coffee…How you reacted in those five seconds is what caused your bad day…
Here is what could have and should have happened…
When the coffee splashes over you and your daughter is about to cry…You should gently say: “It’s okay honey. You just need to be more careful next time!”
Grabbing a towel you run upstairs to change your shirt…
You grab your briefcase and you come back downstairs in time to look out the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves goodbye with a smile…
You arrive at work five minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff…
Notice the difference?
Two different scenarios…Both started the same way…Both ended differently…Because of how you reacted!
You really have no control over 10% of what happens in your life…The other 90% was determined by your reaction…
Now you know the 90/10 Principle…Apply it in your own life and you will be amazed at the results…
This will cost you nothing except your desire to behave differently and have a better life…
The 90/10 Principle is incredible…
Very few people know and apply this Principle…
The result?
Try it yourself and see…
Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, anger, communication problems with others and a host of difficult situations…
We all must understand and apply the 90/10 Principle…
It can change your life!
It only takes a bit of will power to give ourselves permission to make the change in our behavior…
Absolutely everything we do, give, say or even think is like a boomerang…It will come back to us…and it may cause us grief in relationship problems at home, at work or elsewhere.
This is a simple way to help to control your behavior...we sense we're being attacked and we react to that attack with anger and aggression which are automatic behaviors learned and imbedded within us at a very early age...a better way is to understand our emotions and the emotions of others and respond to those events in our lives which we perceive as attacks...
The response is the new behavior...the reaction is the old...
Isn't it time for you to start responding differently? I can help!
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
Discover the 90/10 Principle…it will change your life (or at least the way you react to situations)…
What is the Principle?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you…90% is decided by how you react…
What does this mean?
We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us…We have no control over this 10%...
The other 90% is different…You determine the other 90%...
How? By your reactions…
You cannot control a red traffic light…However you can control how you react…
Do Not let people fool you…You can control how you react…
Let us use the following example…
Say you are having breakfast with your family…Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt…
You have no control over what just happened…
What happens next will be determined by how you react…
You curse!...You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over…She breaks down in tears…
After scolding her, you turn to your wife and you criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows…
You storm upstairs to change your shirt…
Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish her breakfast and to get ready to go to school…she misses the bus…
Your spouse must immediately leave for work…
You rush to your car and drive your daughter to school…
Because you’re late, you drive 40 miles per hour in a 30 mph speed limit zone…You get pulled over for speeding…after a 15 minute delay and a huge traffic fine…you finally get her to school late…
She jumps out of the car and runs into the school without saying goodbye to you…
After arriving at your office late you realize that you forgot your briefcase…
Your day has started terribly. As it continues it just gets worse and worse. You look forward to going home…
When you arrive home, you find a small wedge in your relationship between your wife and daughter…
Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning…
Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is D!
You had no control over what happened with the coffee…How you reacted in those five seconds is what caused your bad day…
Here is what could have and should have happened…
When the coffee splashes over you and your daughter is about to cry…You should gently say: “It’s okay honey. You just need to be more careful next time!”
Grabbing a towel you run upstairs to change your shirt…
You grab your briefcase and you come back downstairs in time to look out the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves goodbye with a smile…
You arrive at work five minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff…
Notice the difference?
Two different scenarios…Both started the same way…Both ended differently…Because of how you reacted!
You really have no control over 10% of what happens in your life…The other 90% was determined by your reaction…
Now you know the 90/10 Principle…Apply it in your own life and you will be amazed at the results…
This will cost you nothing except your desire to behave differently and have a better life…
The 90/10 Principle is incredible…
Very few people know and apply this Principle…
The result?
Try it yourself and see…
Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, anger, communication problems with others and a host of difficult situations…
We all must understand and apply the 90/10 Principle…
It can change your life!
It only takes a bit of will power to give ourselves permission to make the change in our behavior…
Absolutely everything we do, give, say or even think is like a boomerang…It will come back to us…and it may cause us grief in relationship problems at home, at work or elsewhere.
This is a simple way to help to control your behavior...we sense we're being attacked and we react to that attack with anger and aggression which are automatic behaviors learned and imbedded within us at a very early age...a better way is to understand our emotions and the emotions of others and respond to those events in our lives which we perceive as attacks...
The response is the new behavior...the reaction is the old...
Isn't it time for you to start responding differently? I can help!
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
Friday, March 29, 2013
A Student's Testimonial
"A few months ago, I had an issue on the job and my employer strongly suggested that I take an Anger Management program. I have to say that I disagreed but went reluctanty mainly to keep my job.
At 6'5" and 240 pounds, I simply dealt with any issues that came my way. I grew up in an alcoholic and verbally abusive environment and that is how I learned to deal with the issues of life. My mother had recently passed away and I didn't know how to properly grieve. This led to even more stress and anger issues.
Much to my dismay, I realize now that I really did need this program. Dr. Sinert has taught me how to deal with stress, my emotions and my anger in a calm positive manner. I have learned how to communicate better with my customers, my fellow employees and my family. I have learned to recognize the warning signs of an episode so I can take a step back and deal with the situation in a better way.
After all was said and done, I have to admit I am glad I was forced to take the course. Without Dr. Sinert's assessment examination and his training me, I would never have known I even had an anger issue. I feel I am better prepared to deal with life's issues." JL - Las Vegas, NV
For more information on how to control your anger and have a better life, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
"A few months ago, I had an issue on the job and my employer strongly suggested that I take an Anger Management program. I have to say that I disagreed but went reluctanty mainly to keep my job.
At 6'5" and 240 pounds, I simply dealt with any issues that came my way. I grew up in an alcoholic and verbally abusive environment and that is how I learned to deal with the issues of life. My mother had recently passed away and I didn't know how to properly grieve. This led to even more stress and anger issues.
Much to my dismay, I realize now that I really did need this program. Dr. Sinert has taught me how to deal with stress, my emotions and my anger in a calm positive manner. I have learned how to communicate better with my customers, my fellow employees and my family. I have learned to recognize the warning signs of an episode so I can take a step back and deal with the situation in a better way.
After all was said and done, I have to admit I am glad I was forced to take the course. Without Dr. Sinert's assessment examination and his training me, I would never have known I even had an anger issue. I feel I am better prepared to deal with life's issues." JL - Las Vegas, NV
For more information on how to control your anger and have a better life, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
A Student's Testimonial
"AN OPEN LETTER - Yes an old dog can learn a new trick or two!
Not long ago at age seventy-three or so, I was made aware of a few simple truths. Since childhood I had been captive of a necessary emotional attribute - ANGER - a simple biochemical mechanism we are born with for the sole purpose of self-preservation; a fight or flight reaction triggered by sight or sound; a moment we are empowered to react to a perceived danger. Well and good for a self-designated Alpha creature at the top of a complex food chain - I am not that animal any longer.
I now realize that I am an emotional entity capable of making choices. I have known these abstractions but did not accept their validity or value. The human fore-brain is far too complex to be controlled by a still-present reptilian core, hidden deep within our physical brain and our awareness. Dr. Sinert pointed me in a direction of self-healing and awareness that abruptly changed my life and all those within my sphere of influence. I enrolled myself in his Anger Management class after having had an emotional explosion at a movie theater ticket booth, which was embarrassing and potentially dangerous to those nearby.
After a few sessions, I remember saying something on the order of, "You need to bottle this teaching capacity of yours to allow one's taming of their anger!"
Thank you for your help, healing hands and compassion. I love you for it. I am a better and happier human being." JFK, PhD, retired ...and now renewed.
For more information on how to control your anger and have a better life, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
"AN OPEN LETTER - Yes an old dog can learn a new trick or two!
Not long ago at age seventy-three or so, I was made aware of a few simple truths. Since childhood I had been captive of a necessary emotional attribute - ANGER - a simple biochemical mechanism we are born with for the sole purpose of self-preservation; a fight or flight reaction triggered by sight or sound; a moment we are empowered to react to a perceived danger. Well and good for a self-designated Alpha creature at the top of a complex food chain - I am not that animal any longer.
I now realize that I am an emotional entity capable of making choices. I have known these abstractions but did not accept their validity or value. The human fore-brain is far too complex to be controlled by a still-present reptilian core, hidden deep within our physical brain and our awareness. Dr. Sinert pointed me in a direction of self-healing and awareness that abruptly changed my life and all those within my sphere of influence. I enrolled myself in his Anger Management class after having had an emotional explosion at a movie theater ticket booth, which was embarrassing and potentially dangerous to those nearby.
After a few sessions, I remember saying something on the order of, "You need to bottle this teaching capacity of yours to allow one's taming of their anger!"
Thank you for your help, healing hands and compassion. I love you for it. I am a better and happier human being." JFK, PhD, retired ...and now renewed.
For more information on how to control your anger and have a better life, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
A Student's Testimonial
"Dr. Sinert, If there were more people like you in the world,there'd be more smiles like mine. Thank you for making me grow as a
man!" - JR, Las Vegas, NV
For more information on how to control your anger, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
"Dr. Sinert, If there were more people like you in the world,there'd be more smiles like mine. Thank you for making me grow as a
man!" - JR, Las Vegas, NV
For more information on how to control your anger, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
A Student's Testimonial
"Throughout-my last 42 years I have had the privilege of playing many great roles on the stage ranging from Titus Andronicus to Blq Daddy Pollock to Dr. Dysart to Col. Jessup, all without fear or anger or humiliation. That I saved for my
own life.
I have lived outside the stage in the darkness of anqer and fear. I thought it was because I was guilty of being unstable and unable to communicate effectively to anyone. I lived alone, without relationships, with only the stage as my "happy place". I thought this was the way it was for me forever. This was my "normal."
Yoo have glven me a new script to play, a new script for me without an ending, a script without fear or anger or humiliation. I call it my new life!
You have enlightened me that a simple defensive function in my brain was the base on which I created a living hell. You have guided me to an understand that I have control of myself by reconnecting to reason. You have directed me into a world where I am no longer ashamed to be me, no longer standing outside life, no longer afraid to be unscripted. You have taught me to communicate assertively. You have taught me how to manage my anger. You have helped me believe that love is a reality for me.
Thank you for allowing me to believe once more in the happy ending. Now I am very hungry to live, very hungry indeed.
You're a great playwright and I am proud to play your script." -JH, LAS VEGAS, NV
For more information on how to control your anger and improve your own life, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert
Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
"Throughout-my last 42 years I have had the privilege of playing many great roles on the stage ranging from Titus Andronicus to Blq Daddy Pollock to Dr. Dysart to Col. Jessup, all without fear or anger or humiliation. That I saved for my
own life.
I have lived outside the stage in the darkness of anqer and fear. I thought it was because I was guilty of being unstable and unable to communicate effectively to anyone. I lived alone, without relationships, with only the stage as my "happy place". I thought this was the way it was for me forever. This was my "normal."
Yoo have glven me a new script to play, a new script for me without an ending, a script without fear or anger or humiliation. I call it my new life!
You have enlightened me that a simple defensive function in my brain was the base on which I created a living hell. You have guided me to an understand that I have control of myself by reconnecting to reason. You have directed me into a world where I am no longer ashamed to be me, no longer standing outside life, no longer afraid to be unscripted. You have taught me to communicate assertively. You have taught me how to manage my anger. You have helped me believe that love is a reality for me.
Thank you for allowing me to believe once more in the happy ending. Now I am very hungry to live, very hungry indeed.
You're a great playwright and I am proud to play your script." -JH, LAS VEGAS, NV
For more information on how to control your anger and improve your own life, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert
Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
Wednesday, February 20, 2013
A CLIENT'S TESTIMONIAL
"Dr. Sinert,
This letter is long overdue. I took your class about 7 months ago. I didn't even think that I had any issues with anger, and I signed up for the class in hopes of encouraging someone else to go. I have to say that the class has transformed my life! I cannot thank you enough for giving me the knowledge and skills to not only deal with any anger and stress that I may have, but to also be able to handle the anger that others may have.
The skills that you have taught me have dramatically changed my life and my relationships with the people in my life in a positive way and I can't thank you enough for everything you have done. I am not just dealing better with my own anger and the anger of others, I am also so much happier than I ever imagined I could be!
Thank you again from the bottom of my heart!"...MY, Las Vegas, NV
You too can enjoy a happier and better life without anger.
For more information, visit my website www.nevadaangermanagement.com
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
email to: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
"Dr. Sinert,
This letter is long overdue. I took your class about 7 months ago. I didn't even think that I had any issues with anger, and I signed up for the class in hopes of encouraging someone else to go. I have to say that the class has transformed my life! I cannot thank you enough for giving me the knowledge and skills to not only deal with any anger and stress that I may have, but to also be able to handle the anger that others may have.
The skills that you have taught me have dramatically changed my life and my relationships with the people in my life in a positive way and I can't thank you enough for everything you have done. I am not just dealing better with my own anger and the anger of others, I am also so much happier than I ever imagined I could be!
Thank you again from the bottom of my heart!"...MY, Las Vegas, NV
You too can enjoy a happier and better life without anger.
For more information, visit my website www.nevadaangermanagement.com
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
email to: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
Friday, February 1, 2013
REACTION vs RESPONSE
When we get angry we are reacting to our own perception that we are being attacked. As stated in a previous blog, that attack is most commonly verbal, but it can also be physical, psychological or emotional.
So, when we sense we're being attacked we react with the angry response, usually a very aggressive reaction. This behavior is an automatic reaction to the attack and it's a behavior learned early in childhood and then carried forth into our lives.
In Anger Management we teach you how to respond to the perceived attack appropriately without aggression.
Our Anger Management program includes Gaining Control of yourself, Stress Management, Emotional Intelligence and Improving Communication.
How do we measure your success? We administer a simple assessment examination before the program begins. This examination measures your Assertive skills, your level of Empathy, your Stress Management skills, your Interpersonal Aggression, your Deference and your Motivation to succeed in changing your behavior.
This assessment examination you cannot fail! It's just a barometer of those behaviors.
After the training is completed, we give you the same examination so we can see and measure how you've improved. In essence we have a before training and after training picture of your behavior pattern.
We also administer an Emotional Intelligence assessment, also on a pre-training and post-training basis, so we are able to measure other factors that might contribute to the Angry Reaction.
For more information, please visit our website at www.nevadaangermanagement.com or contact me directly at
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
5812 S. Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
When we get angry we are reacting to our own perception that we are being attacked. As stated in a previous blog, that attack is most commonly verbal, but it can also be physical, psychological or emotional.
So, when we sense we're being attacked we react with the angry response, usually a very aggressive reaction. This behavior is an automatic reaction to the attack and it's a behavior learned early in childhood and then carried forth into our lives.
In Anger Management we teach you how to respond to the perceived attack appropriately without aggression.
Our Anger Management program includes Gaining Control of yourself, Stress Management, Emotional Intelligence and Improving Communication.
How do we measure your success? We administer a simple assessment examination before the program begins. This examination measures your Assertive skills, your level of Empathy, your Stress Management skills, your Interpersonal Aggression, your Deference and your Motivation to succeed in changing your behavior.
This assessment examination you cannot fail! It's just a barometer of those behaviors.
After the training is completed, we give you the same examination so we can see and measure how you've improved. In essence we have a before training and after training picture of your behavior pattern.
We also administer an Emotional Intelligence assessment, also on a pre-training and post-training basis, so we are able to measure other factors that might contribute to the Angry Reaction.
For more information, please visit our website at www.nevadaangermanagement.com or contact me directly at
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
5812 S. Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
Sunday, January 27, 2013
WHAT IS EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE AND WHY IS IT SO IMPORTANT IN CONTROLLING ANGER?
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE means being aware of our own emotions and managing our behavior in an appropriate manner based on those emotions AND being aware of another person's emotions and managing our relationship appropriately.
When all the pieces of the puzzle are working correctly, our behavior is positive without aggression and without anger. When it's not our relationships suffer.
Everyone has Emotional Intelligence (EQ) just like everyone has an IQ. However, we aren't all aware of our own emotions or those of the other person.
We need to be more aware not only of our own emotions but also of the emotions of others. This is not difficult but it does take training and is included in our Anger Management program.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
website: www.nevadaangermanagement.com
email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE means being aware of our own emotions and managing our behavior in an appropriate manner based on those emotions AND being aware of another person's emotions and managing our relationship appropriately.
When all the pieces of the puzzle are working correctly, our behavior is positive without aggression and without anger. When it's not our relationships suffer.
Everyone has Emotional Intelligence (EQ) just like everyone has an IQ. However, we aren't all aware of our own emotions or those of the other person.
We need to be more aware not only of our own emotions but also of the emotions of others. This is not difficult but it does take training and is included in our Anger Management program.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
website: www.nevadaangermanagement.com
email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
Letter From A Student
“I sought the services of Dr. Sinert, because my life and reputation was for the most part in shambles. I was too arrogant to realize that my risky behaviors would result in legal consequences. Whenever my family and friends tried to communicate to me about the ramifications on my behaviors, I would get upset and dismiss them immediately. It took me getting arrested and convicted to finally realize just how arrogant and unprofessional I was acting. I had to pay a considerable price and face some life changing consequences for my actions.
I found myself feeling frustrated, ashamed and an overwhelming sense of hopelessness. I was in serious need to find someone that could help me deal with my increasing frustrations, constant fear and the apprehension about my future.
The time I spent working with Dr. Sinert has taught me some very important life skills. The following skills he taught me gave me the hope I needed to live my life with dignity by controlling my anger: [1] Identify the things that I cannot control; [2] Understanding various ways to cope with irreconcilable differences appropriately; [3] Be accepting of the things that I cannot control [4] let go and move on.
I have learned how to properly channel my anger and communicate effectively to the people that disrespect me or try hurting my feelings. I’m am not exactly sure what the future has in store for me but with the tools and skills that I have learned from Dr. Sinert, I feel a lot more confident in knowing that I am in control of my behaviors and I alone can dictate the course of my actions.” – MC – Las Vegas, NV
For More information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagemet.com
email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
“I sought the services of Dr. Sinert, because my life and reputation was for the most part in shambles. I was too arrogant to realize that my risky behaviors would result in legal consequences. Whenever my family and friends tried to communicate to me about the ramifications on my behaviors, I would get upset and dismiss them immediately. It took me getting arrested and convicted to finally realize just how arrogant and unprofessional I was acting. I had to pay a considerable price and face some life changing consequences for my actions.
I found myself feeling frustrated, ashamed and an overwhelming sense of hopelessness. I was in serious need to find someone that could help me deal with my increasing frustrations, constant fear and the apprehension about my future.
The time I spent working with Dr. Sinert has taught me some very important life skills. The following skills he taught me gave me the hope I needed to live my life with dignity by controlling my anger: [1] Identify the things that I cannot control; [2] Understanding various ways to cope with irreconcilable differences appropriately; [3] Be accepting of the things that I cannot control [4] let go and move on.
I have learned how to properly channel my anger and communicate effectively to the people that disrespect me or try hurting my feelings. I’m am not exactly sure what the future has in store for me but with the tools and skills that I have learned from Dr. Sinert, I feel a lot more confident in knowing that I am in control of my behaviors and I alone can dictate the course of my actions.” – MC – Las Vegas, NV
For More information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagemet.com
email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
Friday, January 18, 2013
ANGER MANAGEMENT IN THE NEW YEAR
Ok, we're eighteen days into the new year but I think it's not too late to wish you a very Happy and Healthy New Year!
The key words here are HAPPY & HEALTHY.
If you have anger issues it's time to learn how to control them in a simple program designed to give you the tools necessary to be happier and healthier in the new year.
Everyone has the potential to get angry. Anger is NOT a mental disorder. Just because you get angry does not mean you're crazy. It does mean that you need to learn how to control your anger.
Anger Management is not therapy! Rather it's a learning process to make changes in your behavior. Those changes are to reduce your Aggression, improve your Stress Management skills, enhance your Emotional Intelligence and improve your Communication skills.
Isn't it time for you to have a HAPPY and HEALTHY NEW YEAR?
Give me a call...I can help.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert
Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
email to: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
Ok, we're eighteen days into the new year but I think it's not too late to wish you a very Happy and Healthy New Year!
The key words here are HAPPY & HEALTHY.
If you have anger issues it's time to learn how to control them in a simple program designed to give you the tools necessary to be happier and healthier in the new year.
Everyone has the potential to get angry. Anger is NOT a mental disorder. Just because you get angry does not mean you're crazy. It does mean that you need to learn how to control your anger.
Anger Management is not therapy! Rather it's a learning process to make changes in your behavior. Those changes are to reduce your Aggression, improve your Stress Management skills, enhance your Emotional Intelligence and improve your Communication skills.
Isn't it time for you to have a HAPPY and HEALTHY NEW YEAR?
Give me a call...I can help.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert
Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
email to: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
A CLIENT'S EXPERIENCE WITH ANGER MANAGEMENT
“My experience with Dr. Sinert's anger management course was in no doubt a great one, and I learned many new helpful tools that I now use on a daily basis. It seems the more I utilize these tools, the sharper and more positive my reactions are to stressful situations that before, would have ended in anger. I no longer feel like a slave to my anger.
I grew up in a world, both socially and athletically, where aggression seemed to be encouraged and rewarded. Yet as I graduated into the “grown-up” world, it became clear to me and others that aggression and anger were the crutch I used to help me walk through a life where stress is a constant. This crutch proved to be a broken one, as my angry and aggressive responses to stress negatively affected more and more personal and business relationships.
Thanks to the Nevada Anger Management program, I now have a dependable crutch based on modern research, explained clearly by Dr. Sinert. I truly got the sense that I learned from the most intelligent information out there. I didn't even have the slightest clue about what was happening in my mind and body in response to an attack; whether it be from a loved one, or a stranger cutting me off in traffic. I even had to learn what constituted an attack! I now look at every attack as a test for being a better communicator and person; and conflict resolution is a much smoother process.
Before taking this course, I really assumed that I was right in my world. That this was who I was, and if you didn't like it, that was your problem. Rarely did I look at a conflict from the other person's perspective. This ignorance has thankfully been removed, and I now know that when I recognize an attack, I can react positively if I utilize what I learned from Dr. Sinert.
This course is complete, and I really think it deals with every aspect of the causes of anger, how to react quickly before access to rational thought is lost, and how to communicate assertively and positively with an “attacker.” I now focus on “me” in dealing with stress and attacks, instead of “you.” There have been many negative experiences in my life and in the lives of others because of my anger, but I can't go back in time to create a new beginning. Thanks to Dr. Sinert and what I learned at Nevada Anger Management, the new “me” can begin today to make a new ending.” BG…Las Vegas, NV
“My experience with Dr. Sinert's anger management course was in no doubt a great one, and I learned many new helpful tools that I now use on a daily basis. It seems the more I utilize these tools, the sharper and more positive my reactions are to stressful situations that before, would have ended in anger. I no longer feel like a slave to my anger.
I grew up in a world, both socially and athletically, where aggression seemed to be encouraged and rewarded. Yet as I graduated into the “grown-up” world, it became clear to me and others that aggression and anger were the crutch I used to help me walk through a life where stress is a constant. This crutch proved to be a broken one, as my angry and aggressive responses to stress negatively affected more and more personal and business relationships.
Thanks to the Nevada Anger Management program, I now have a dependable crutch based on modern research, explained clearly by Dr. Sinert. I truly got the sense that I learned from the most intelligent information out there. I didn't even have the slightest clue about what was happening in my mind and body in response to an attack; whether it be from a loved one, or a stranger cutting me off in traffic. I even had to learn what constituted an attack! I now look at every attack as a test for being a better communicator and person; and conflict resolution is a much smoother process.
Before taking this course, I really assumed that I was right in my world. That this was who I was, and if you didn't like it, that was your problem. Rarely did I look at a conflict from the other person's perspective. This ignorance has thankfully been removed, and I now know that when I recognize an attack, I can react positively if I utilize what I learned from Dr. Sinert.
This course is complete, and I really think it deals with every aspect of the causes of anger, how to react quickly before access to rational thought is lost, and how to communicate assertively and positively with an “attacker.” I now focus on “me” in dealing with stress and attacks, instead of “you.” There have been many negative experiences in my life and in the lives of others because of my anger, but I can't go back in time to create a new beginning. Thanks to Dr. Sinert and what I learned at Nevada Anger Management, the new “me” can begin today to make a new ending.” BG…Las Vegas, NV
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