Thursday, November 25, 2010

Anger in Older Folks

Movies like Grumpy Old Men and Grumpier Old Men have portrayed anger in older men in a humorous fashion. However, Anger is not at all funny, for either sex.

Anger is the direct result of unresolved stress leading to frustration which in turn leads to the angry response when people sense they are being attacked.

So, what are the attacks that older folks are prone to? Usually they are verbal or other psychological attacks at themselves or at their loved ones. Here are a few examples of several of my recent clients who have exhibited this exact behavior.

Take the older individual who has contemporary friends or relatives who have many kinds of illnesses and are therefore forced to face their own mortality. Do you not think this is stressful and frustrating? Add to that stress, say, with a grand-child who is cranky and a parent who reprimands the child by yelling excessively in the presence of a grand-parent and again it becomes stressful and frustrating to the older individual and you have the makings of an angry response.

Or take the retiree who now has lots of time on their hands with little or nothing to occupy that time. This can be stressful and frustrating to them. Press their buttons in any way and you have the makings of an angry person.

Also, the state of our economy can be extremely stressful to older individuals with the loss of value in their homes, the loss of value in their 401K’s and other investments and perhaps reduced income as well. These can easily lead to frustration and an angry response when provoked.

Some illnesses and even medications for those illnesses can cause stress and frustration and side-effects which can lead to an angry response.

An anger management program by a Certified Management Coach can frequently teach older individuals the skills necessary to gain control of their anger, to ease the stresses in their lives, to enhance their emotional intelligence and to improve their communication skills.

For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified Anger Management Coach
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
702 353 1750
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com

A STUDENT’S TESTIMONIAL

"I attended your anger management class starting in August and finished last week. Your class was highly recommended by my Therapist. There had been several situations with friends and my wife that contributed to my anger.

I was upset with a particular group of “friends”. I am very competitive.

Through your class and focus on the Positive and Negative Wheels of behavior, I began to realize that life was not fun for us.

As a result of your program I became less focused on winning and more on enjoying the game. I also learned how to better communicate with my wife.

All in all I am enjoying retirement and life is so much more relaxing. I still have to unload stressful situations, while recognizing that in time these will resolve themselves.

Your broad based course in Anger Management has opened new doors for me.

Thank you"
SS

For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified Anger Management Coach
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
702 353 1750
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com

Wednesday, November 17, 2010

Anger and Domestic Violence

Anger occurs when individuals experience unresolved stress which can easily lead to frustration which is a feeling of dissatisfaction, often accompanied by anxiety or even depression. This is the cause of Domestic Violence.

Domestic Violence is domestic abuse or spousal abuse by one or both partners in an intimate relationship such as marriage, dating, family, friends or cohabitation. Obviously, Domestic Violence is bad hurtful behavior against an intimate partner. If you love your partner why would you intentionally hurt them?

Domestic Violence can be either verbal or physical aggression or threatening behavior, sexual or emotional abuse, controlling or intimidating behavior, passive abusive behavior such as neglect or even economic deprivation. Again, all of these are hurtful behaviors. If you love your partner why would you intentionally hurt them?

It has been estimated that only about a third of cases of Domestic Violence are actually reported in the United States. According to the Center for Disease Control Domestic Violence is a serious, preventable public health problem affecting more than 32 million Americans, or over 10% of the U.S. population.

Domestic Violence can be characterized by patterns of behavior which may include power and control by one person over another in an intimate relationship. It can occur in both heterosexual and homosexual relationships and has serious consequences in the lives of children, individuals, families and communities. Again, if you love your partner why would you intentionally hurt them?

Anger is the response elicited in humans when we sense we’re being attacked or otherwise endangered which can come from hostile behavior, inattention, intimidation, controlling behavior, manipulation or outright rage. Again, I ask, if you love your partner why would you intentionally hurt them?

Courts in many jurisdictions require and mandate that individuals accused of Domestic Violence take training in Anger Management.

The program of Anger Management is the Anderson & Anderson model and is world renowned. It teaches you new ways to behave by giving you the tools necessary to change your behavior in a pleasant easy way. Also included in the program is Stress Management training, Emotional Intelligence enhancement and improvement in Communications. The program is not psychtherapy but rather a skill enhancement program.

The program is conducted over ten sessions either in a group setting or privately with Dr. Sinert.

For more information, please contact

Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified Anger Management Provider & Coach
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road, Suite B, Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
www.nevadaangermanagement.com