Wednesday, June 19, 2013

LIFE IS A CELEBRATION, NOT AN ENDURANCE CONTEST

Intimate relationships should be pleasant experiences where there is love, mutual respect, enjoying of each other’s company and sharing of ideas, thoughts and experiences. In essence, sharing our lives.

Yet in many relationships there is anger and aggressive behavior. From where does this behavior come?

Most anger and aggressive behavior stems from our childhood. Learning the ANGRY REACTION is nearly complete by the age of two to three. We learn this from our parents and siblings. Then we carry it forward as we grow and mature into adulthood.

The aggressive behaviors of INATTENTION, INTIMIDATION, CONTROL, MANIPULATION, AVOIDANCE, INTERRUPTION, RAGE and HOSTILITY are all HURTFUL behaviors when perpetrated upon us or when we use them against others.

Either way the receiving party of these behaviors will usually respond either with AGGRESSION or with PASSIVE BEHAVIOR. If it’s aggression, it’s called ANGER. If it’s passive, it’s called AVOIDANCE.

Avoidance may also be a sign of low self-esteem and poor assertive skills.

In any event, our response to the hurtful, aggressive behavior we sense is also hurtful and aggressive behavior back at the attacking party. So at first we are victims of aggression, then we become perpetrators of aggression towards someone whom we may in fact share an intimate relationship. This back and forth behavior is your basic argument.

And this brings me back to the BLOG title above. LIFE is not an endurance contest. Sure we can fight back at our attackers using more attacks against them, by raising our voices and yelling, by even getting physical or even violent. NONE of this behavior nurtures our relationships and improves them. To the contrary, the relationships are harmed, some beyond repair. (Just look at the divorce rates!)

So how can this hurtful behavior we experience be resolved?

Our ANGER MANAGEMENT program will teach you new ways of behaving, how to respond to the attacks of others, how to stop being aggressive toward your loved ones, how to be more assertive, how to express your anger in a good and appropriate way, how to boost your self-esteem, how to improve your management of stress, how to understand your emotions and the emotions of others and how to improve your communication skills. Our program is NOT therapy but rather sskill enhancement.

Make your life a CELEBRATION not an ENDURANCE contest.

We offer anger management in group or private sessions and also privately for couples or others in sensitive occupations.

For more information, please call

Dr. Steven J. Sinert
Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120

702 353 1750

www.nevadaangermanagement.com

Monday, June 10, 2013

What is Anger Management?

Anger Management is not only a movie and a television show, but also, and more importantly, learning a better way to behave. It requires effort and some study but is not difficult.

It involves Gaining Control of oneself, Stress Management training, enhancing Emotional Intelligence and improving Communications skills with the people we love and are closest to. These are the ones we get angry with most often.

The behaviors we show to these loved ones are usually hurtful. If we love our wives and husbands, our children, our parents and siblings, why do we continue to hurt them?

The answer is that we just don't know any better way to behave. This program is well recognized will certainly change your life.

My Anger Management program teaches you how to behave in a better way without aggression or anger, how to manage your stresses better, how to improve your emotional intelligence and how to improve your communication skills, all of which will improve your life.

For more information, please contact

Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road – Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120

702 353 1750

email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com

Improving Communication Skills

Miscommunications or lack of good skills at communicating with others, especially those closest to us, is another major source of anger and the angry reaction.

We must learn to speak clearly and honestly so there are no miscommunications and therefore less of an opportunity to create that perception of an attack in others or in ourselves. Remember, that attack causes us to respond with the Angry Reaction.

In my program, the essence of our communications with others is to be assertive and not aggressive, letting others know how we feel and what we need that will make us feel better and how to make others feel good.

For more information, please contact

Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road – Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120

702 353 1750

Email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com

Emotional Intelligence

Emotional Intelligence

Emotional Intelligence is a term which basically means being aware of our own emotions and managing our behavior in an appropriate way without anger or aggression based on those emotions AND being aware of the emotions of others (also called empathy)and managing our relationships again without aggression or anger.

The separate domains of Emotional Intelligence, namely self-awareness, self-management, social awareness and relationship management, can be measured and evaluated and finally adjusted so we are more able to live a life without anger and aggression.

In our program enhancing one's emotional intelligence is of primary importance because it improves our behavior and limits our angry reactions.

For more information, please contact

Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road – Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120

702 353 1750

Email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com

Stress and Anger

Stress and Anger

So what is STRESS? It’s a force which creates mental or physical tension within us. Stress can be either negative (bad) or positive (good). An example of negative stress can be a perceived attack against us. An example of a positive stress can be how we feel after purchasing something new which we like.

Stress from all sources contributes to our Angry Reaction by creating a feeling of frustration within us, a sense of insecurity and dissatisfaction arising from unresolved problems or unfulfilled needs or by a sense of disappointment.

Once we feel frustrated anger and the angry reaction is close behind.

In a nutshell, stress leads to frustration which leads to anger.

In my program, it is essential to controlling your anger to become aware of the stresses we face on a daily basis, how to accept those stresses and how to cope with them. We teach you useful tools to master them.

For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified Anger Management Provider
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road – Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120

702 353 1750

Email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com

Anger the Emotion

Anger the Emotion

Anger is a normal emotion designed to protect us and keep us alive. It was significantly more important in the days of the caveman perhaps 100,000 to one million years ago. The Angry Reaction is the way we express Anger the Emotion.

That reaction is an automatic response to our perception that we are being attacked. And those attacks come at us very frequently as verbal assaults, physical assaults or psychological or emotional assaults from others.

The angry reaction is a learned response which was instilled within us at a very early age. It is an automatic response. We do not think about it when we’re attacked. It is spontaneous and gets us into all kinds of difficulty with those closest to us.

In my Anger Management program, I teach you about those assaults, those attacks, that come at us on a daily basis and how to recognize them and how to respond to them in an appropriate manner without getting angry.

For more information, please contact

Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road – Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120

702 353 1750

Email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com

Friday, June 7, 2013

From the Mother of a Teenage Student

"Hi Dr. Sinert, I just wanted to let you know that my son faxed you a letter today thanking you for helping him make his journey through life with less anger and frustration.

I was happy to read that he was able to see clearly that he was a frustrated, angry, know it all teenager when he first started coming to you for anger management guidance and counseling and now he's able to direct his frustration in a positive way. I'm so grateful to you and highly recommend your program for all teenagers and adults too!

I work with many medical professionals who have teenagers like my son and I have referred them to you. As parents of teenagers, we all have many of the same concerns regarding our children and you are a GODSEND!! Thank you Dr. Sinert! I will remember you forever and pray for you often. BC, Las Vegas, NV June 4, 2013"

For more information, please contact

Dr. Steven J. Sinert
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 South Pecos Road Road - Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120

702 353 1750

www.nevadaangermanagement.com
email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
From a Teenage Student

"Dr. Sinert, I would like to thank you from the bottom of my heart. When I first came to you I was an angry and frustrated teenager who thought I knew it all and that I could handle all my problems on my own. In these past few months you have shown me that the things that I was doing to express my anger were not acceptable or appropriate.

You have given me the tools to successfully express my feelings in a constructive and healthy way. You have taught me that anger is a normal part of life and that it can be controlled.

I truly appreciate all of the things that you've done for me these 10 sessions. I now handle every situation in which I would previously react angrily, with calmness and patience. I no longer snap over every little thing.

Since completing my sessions with you, I have seen a great change in my relationships with my peers, my mother, and other important people in my life. I make use of my once dormant skills of empathy and caring. I treat others the way I would want to be treated make them feel good whenever possible.

I see many differences in others as well since my transformation. They have responded to my positive behavior and treated me positively in return.

Every day for me is now filled with joy and happiness thanks to you. I don't know where I would be now or how I would react to things that once made me upset if it hadn't been for you, Dr. Sinert.

I greatly appreciate everything that you have done for me and everything you taught me. I see now that I don't know everything and that I have control over no one but myself. I don't need to be a policeman trying to tell others what to do. I just need to focus on my own attitudes and behaviors.

Thank you for opening my eyes to all of these things. I greatly appreciate you. Sincerely, JC, June 4, 2013, Las Vegas, NV"

For more information, please contact

Dr. Steven J. Sinert
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 South Pecos Road - Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120

702 353 1750

www.nevadaangermanagement.com

email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com