Intimate relationships should be pleasant experiences where there is love, mutual respect, enjoying of each other’s company and sharing of ideas, thoughts and experiences. In essence, sharing our lives.
Yet in many relationships there is anger and aggressive behavior. From where does this behavior come?
Most anger and aggressive behavior stems from our childhood. Learning the ANGRY REACTION is nearly complete by the age of two to three. We learn this from our parents and siblings. Then we carry it forward as we grow and mature into adulthood.
The aggressive behaviors of INATTENTION, INTIMIDATION, CONTROL, MANIPULATION, AVOIDANCE, INTERRUPTION, RAGE and HOSTILITY are all HURTFUL behaviors when perpetrated upon us or when we use them against others.
Either way the receiving party of these behaviors will usually respond either with AGGRESSION or with PASSIVE BEHAVIOR. If it’s aggression, it’s called ANGER. If it’s passive, it’s called AVOIDANCE.
Avoidance may also be a sign of low self-esteem and poor assertive skills.
In any event, our response to the hurtful, aggressive behavior we sense is also hurtful and aggressive behavior back at the attacking party. So at first we are victims of aggression, then we become perpetrators of aggression towards someone whom we may in fact share an intimate relationship. This back and forth behavior is your basic argument.
And this brings me back to the BLOG title above. LIFE is not an endurance contest. Sure we can fight back at our attackers using more attacks against them, by raising our voices and yelling, by even getting physical or even violent. NONE of this behavior nurtures our relationships and improves them. To the contrary, the relationships are harmed, some beyond repair. (Just look at the divorce rates!)
So how can this hurtful behavior we experience be resolved?
Our ANGER MANAGEMENT program will teach you new ways of behaving, how to respond to the attacks of others, how to stop being aggressive toward your loved ones, how to be more assertive, how to express your anger in a good and appropriate way, how to boost your self-esteem, how to improve your management of stress, how to understand your emotions and the emotions of others and how to improve your communication skills. Our program is NOT therapy but rather sskill enhancement.
Make your life a CELEBRATION not an ENDURANCE contest.
We offer anger management in group or private sessions and also privately for couples or others in sensitive occupations.
For more information, please call
Dr. Steven J. Sinert
Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
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