IS ANGER A NORMAL EMOTION?
ANGER is a normal emotion designed to protect us and keep us alive. It should be differentiated from THE ANGRY REACTION which is a behavior pattern that is usually learned in early childhood and which is the aggressive reaction to the perception we are being attacked. That attack is most commonly verbal, but can also be physical, psychological or emotional.
Fear is certainly one of the precursors to the angry reaction (and may be most important) but so are other primary emotions such as frustration, inability to communicate assertively, low self-esteem, lack of empathy for others, unresolved stresses of all kinds, excessive aggressiveness and high levels of deference which is giving your rights to others to make decisions for you which may not be what you really want.
Additionally, some individuals show toxic behavior to others such as controlling, manipulative or other hurtful behaviors which are perceived as attacks.
As humans we fear many things: loss of our lives, loss of our mates, loss of our children, loss of our parents, loss of jobs, loss of our homes, loss of our money...even loss of our freedoms and way of life. Yes, FEAR guides our behaviors in many ways and it certainly is in my opinion the most important factor causing the angry reaction. However, it is not by far the only cause.
Anger Management is not therapy! It is training to teach the angry person the tools necessary to change their behavior. It is NOT psychological counseling or psychiatric treatment with medication unless there are underlying mental conditions.
Just because a person gets angry does NOT mean they are mentally ill or crazy. It does in fact mean they have never learned how to behave appropriately in society.
So every ANGER MANAGEMENT PROGRAM should begin with a written assessment (an examination) which measures certain parameters of an individual's behavior: assertiveness, empathy, stress management skills, interpersonal aggression, deference and their motivation to succeed at making the changes necessary to control their anger. That examination assessment should be administered at the end of the training as well to compare the results to the initial examination.
Lastly, every ANGER MANAGEMENT PROGRAM should include 1) the Tools necessary to control the angry reaction, 2) Stress Management training, 3) enhancing Emotional Intelligence and 4) improving Communication skills. Without these areas of training, anger management would be of little value.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC,
5812 S. Pecos Rd – Suite B
Las Vegas, Nevada 89120
702 353 1750
dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
Wednesday, December 12, 2012
A STUDENT’S TESTIMONIAL
“Before taking this program I felt frustrated and unable to deal with the stress and anger I felt in my day to day dealings with others at work, socially and at home.
During my time with Dr. Sinert I became more conscious of how different circumstances impacted my emotions and also the perception that I had of myself and my general self esteem. He opened the door for me with the right tools to not only better understand myself but also how to deal with the natural feeling of anger and stress in a healthy way. He taught me how to express my feelings and needs in an effective way thereby controlling my anger. Thank you again Dr Sinert for this gift.” AG ,MD
For more information on our Anger Management, Self Esteem or Emotional Intelligence programs, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 South Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89052
702 353 1750
dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
Serving physicians, attorneys, business executives, individuals or couples in groups or privately in our office conveniently located to Las Vegas, Henderson, and Boulder City.
Dr. Sinert is available for speaking engagements.
“Before taking this program I felt frustrated and unable to deal with the stress and anger I felt in my day to day dealings with others at work, socially and at home.
During my time with Dr. Sinert I became more conscious of how different circumstances impacted my emotions and also the perception that I had of myself and my general self esteem. He opened the door for me with the right tools to not only better understand myself but also how to deal with the natural feeling of anger and stress in a healthy way. He taught me how to express my feelings and needs in an effective way thereby controlling my anger. Thank you again Dr Sinert for this gift.” AG ,MD
For more information on our Anger Management, Self Esteem or Emotional Intelligence programs, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 South Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89052
702 353 1750
dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
Serving physicians, attorneys, business executives, individuals or couples in groups or privately in our office conveniently located to Las Vegas, Henderson, and Boulder City.
Dr. Sinert is available for speaking engagements.
Monday, December 10, 2012
'TIS THE SEASON...
'Tis the season to be happy, jolly and in good spirits. It may also be the season for us to become angry with loved ones, family, friends, co-workers and associates and... well, just about anyone else.
ANGER is a normal emotion designed to protect us and keep us alive.
The ANGRY REACTION is the behavior we use to express our anger and in many cases is inappropriate behavior. It's a behavior we've all learned in early childhood. It's aggressive behavior that for most of us needs to be changed.
The angry response begins with the perception that we're being attacked. That attack can be directed at us or at someone or something we care about. Most commonly, the attack comes at us verbally by someone saying something to us, but also can come at us physically, psychologically or emotionally.
The attacks that we perceive are hurtful behaviors by someone else or by us towards others. If they are towards us we may respond aggressively with the angry response. If the attacks are by us towards others their response toward us may be their own aggressive and angry response.
Why is there so much aggressive, attacking behavior between us? It's because we've never been taught how to respond in a better way. So, someone attacks us and we attack back and vice versa...until you learn about the attacks in an Anger Management program which includes the tools to Gain Control, the tools and methods to manage our Stress, the methods to enhance our Emotional Intelligence and the ways to improve our Communication skills.
It should be noted also that all attacks against us in any form are stresses and we need to learn how to resolve these stresses in a good way.
Anger Management is not difficult to learn but it does take some time and motivation.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
5812 S. Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
Serving clients directly in the Las Vegas, Henderson and Boulder City areas and nationwide with onsite training for disruptive physicians, disruptive attorneys and business executives.
'Tis the season to be happy, jolly and in good spirits. It may also be the season for us to become angry with loved ones, family, friends, co-workers and associates and... well, just about anyone else.
ANGER is a normal emotion designed to protect us and keep us alive.
The ANGRY REACTION is the behavior we use to express our anger and in many cases is inappropriate behavior. It's a behavior we've all learned in early childhood. It's aggressive behavior that for most of us needs to be changed.
The angry response begins with the perception that we're being attacked. That attack can be directed at us or at someone or something we care about. Most commonly, the attack comes at us verbally by someone saying something to us, but also can come at us physically, psychologically or emotionally.
The attacks that we perceive are hurtful behaviors by someone else or by us towards others. If they are towards us we may respond aggressively with the angry response. If the attacks are by us towards others their response toward us may be their own aggressive and angry response.
Why is there so much aggressive, attacking behavior between us? It's because we've never been taught how to respond in a better way. So, someone attacks us and we attack back and vice versa...until you learn about the attacks in an Anger Management program which includes the tools to Gain Control, the tools and methods to manage our Stress, the methods to enhance our Emotional Intelligence and the ways to improve our Communication skills.
It should be noted also that all attacks against us in any form are stresses and we need to learn how to resolve these stresses in a good way.
Anger Management is not difficult to learn but it does take some time and motivation.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
5812 S. Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
Serving clients directly in the Las Vegas, Henderson and Boulder City areas and nationwide with onsite training for disruptive physicians, disruptive attorneys and business executives.
Friday, November 16, 2012
THERE IS ONLY ONE REASON WE GET ANGRY
The only reason we get angry is because we perceive an attack against ourselves or against someone or something we care about! PERIOD!
The attacks that come at us are of several types. The most common is verbal from another person where someone says something to us that presses our buttons.
The next type is a physical attack where someone actually attacks us physically such as hitting, slapping, punching or pushing.
The next is the psychological or emotional attack where, for example, someone turns their back on us and refuses to or cannot solve an issue, or an illness or injury which we perceive as an attack.
ALL ATTACKS that come at us are stresses and all stresses can be thought of as attacks.
There are good, non-aggressive ways to behave without anger when we're attacked. In my Anger Management program, I identify the attacks and teach you how to respond to them in a very appropriate manner by Gaining Control of ourselves.
Additionally, the program consists of training in Stress Management, Emotional Intelligence and Communication skills.
Our program is NOT THERAPY but rather skill enhancement. Just because you have a short fuse or a temper does NOT mean you're crazy or mentally ill. Anger and the angry response to the attacks that come at us is a behavior we have learned early in our lives, perhaps by the age of two to three, and carried through to adulthood.
I can help get your anger under control!
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 South Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
The attacks that come at us are of several types. The most common is verbal from another person where someone says something to us that presses our buttons.
The next type is a physical attack where someone actually attacks us physically such as hitting, slapping, punching or pushing.
The next is the psychological or emotional attack where, for example, someone turns their back on us and refuses to or cannot solve an issue, or an illness or injury which we perceive as an attack.
ALL ATTACKS that come at us are stresses and all stresses can be thought of as attacks.
There are good, non-aggressive ways to behave without anger when we're attacked. In my Anger Management program, I identify the attacks and teach you how to respond to them in a very appropriate manner by Gaining Control of ourselves.
Additionally, the program consists of training in Stress Management, Emotional Intelligence and Communication skills.
Our program is NOT THERAPY but rather skill enhancement. Just because you have a short fuse or a temper does NOT mean you're crazy or mentally ill. Anger and the angry response to the attacks that come at us is a behavior we have learned early in our lives, perhaps by the age of two to three, and carried through to adulthood.
I can help get your anger under control!
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 South Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
Wednesday, November 14, 2012
THE EMOTIONAL BRAIN
The emotional brain is called the limbic system. It’s the area of the human brain which controls our emotions.
The emotional brain must be differentiated from the rational or thinking brain. This is where our thoughts are generated and where we think.
Anger is an emotion and is controlled by the emotional brain.
The amygdala is an almond shaped area within the emotional brain and is basically our personal radar system, surveying our immediate environment and surroundings 24/7 for any attacks which may be coming towards us. When an attack is identified, the amygdala hijacks the rational brain effectively shutting it down. We cannot think clearly or at all and emotions take over. Anger, that normal emotion designed to protect us and keep us alive, comes to the surface. The angry reaction we have is the behavior we learned as a child to express the emotion we call anger.
Anger and the angry reaction are automatic responses. In order to control our anger we need to learn new responses to the attacks that frequently come at us. We need to teach our brain to respond instantaneously without anger.
By the way, those attacks are most frequently verbal but can also be physical, psychological or emotional. The attacks are all stresses, and all stresses are attacks.
ANGER MANAGEMENT training teaches our brains how to immediately recognize the attacks and how to respond appropriately. When an attack comes at us, we have a very short time to respond and we do not have the time to think about how to respond. Remember, the amygdala has shut down our thinking brain when we’re attacked. The response time can be measured in real time and is usually less than 2 seconds, maybe even less than that.
So Anger Management training must also include STRESS MANAGEMENT training. If we can recognize and cope with our stresses better, we can better control our angry reactions.
Since most (but not all) of the attacks are verbal we must also improve our COMMUNICATIONS skills so we can speak more honestly and clearly and listen more effectively and actively.
Most importantly, we have to become more in touch with our own emotions as well as the emotions of anyone else with whom we have any kind of relationship to develop positive behaviors without aggression or anger. This is called EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE and is also a component of the ANGER MANAGEMENT program.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812S. Pecos Road – Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
Email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
Posted: November 14, 2012
The emotional brain is called the limbic system. It’s the area of the human brain which controls our emotions.
The emotional brain must be differentiated from the rational or thinking brain. This is where our thoughts are generated and where we think.
Anger is an emotion and is controlled by the emotional brain.
The amygdala is an almond shaped area within the emotional brain and is basically our personal radar system, surveying our immediate environment and surroundings 24/7 for any attacks which may be coming towards us. When an attack is identified, the amygdala hijacks the rational brain effectively shutting it down. We cannot think clearly or at all and emotions take over. Anger, that normal emotion designed to protect us and keep us alive, comes to the surface. The angry reaction we have is the behavior we learned as a child to express the emotion we call anger.
Anger and the angry reaction are automatic responses. In order to control our anger we need to learn new responses to the attacks that frequently come at us. We need to teach our brain to respond instantaneously without anger.
By the way, those attacks are most frequently verbal but can also be physical, psychological or emotional. The attacks are all stresses, and all stresses are attacks.
ANGER MANAGEMENT training teaches our brains how to immediately recognize the attacks and how to respond appropriately. When an attack comes at us, we have a very short time to respond and we do not have the time to think about how to respond. Remember, the amygdala has shut down our thinking brain when we’re attacked. The response time can be measured in real time and is usually less than 2 seconds, maybe even less than that.
So Anger Management training must also include STRESS MANAGEMENT training. If we can recognize and cope with our stresses better, we can better control our angry reactions.
Since most (but not all) of the attacks are verbal we must also improve our COMMUNICATIONS skills so we can speak more honestly and clearly and listen more effectively and actively.
Most importantly, we have to become more in touch with our own emotions as well as the emotions of anyone else with whom we have any kind of relationship to develop positive behaviors without aggression or anger. This is called EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE and is also a component of the ANGER MANAGEMENT program.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812S. Pecos Road – Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
Email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
Posted: November 14, 2012
Friday, August 31, 2012
WHO ARE OUR CLIENTS?
Our clients come from every walk of life: average men and women just like you, husbands and wives, boyfriends and girlfriends, male or female gays, adolescents and even senior citizens.
And it matters not what education level you have attained. People with elementary and high school, college, graduate school, law school and medical school all exhibit Anger and the Angry Reaction.
My client list includes average people, students, educated people, physicians and attorneys, scientists and, yes, even several PhD’s.
We offer a skill enhancement program divided into four components: the first is Gaining Control where we teach you the tools necessary to control your behavior. This is akin to the first aid for anger; next is improving your Stress Management skills. Again we teach you the tools necessary to control your stress; this is followed by learning about Emotional Intelligence (EQ).
Emotional Intelligence means your ability to understand and be aware of your own emotions and managing your behavior accordingly, as well as your ability to understand the emotions of anyone with whom you’re in any kind of relationship and managing those relationships appropriately; lastly, we teach about Improving Communications, how to speak clearly and honestly, how to be assertive, how to listen actively and how to carefully acknowledge another person’s communications.
When a problem exists in any or all of these four major areas, the resultant behavior can be the angry reaction which in many cases may be catastrophic and violent, placing our relationships, our families or even our marriages and intimate relationships in jeopardy.
Anger is a normal emotion designed to protect us and keep us alive.
The Angry Reaction is the way we exhibit Anger the emotion. This reaction is an automatic behavioral pattern learned early in childhood which remains with us as we grow older into adolescence and adulthood.
The Angry Reaction is a memory in our brains which exhibits itself ONLY when we sense we are being attacked (hence the protection mentioned above). This memory will remain with us for our entire life.
The problems begin and continue when the Angry Reaction becomes aggression towards the person attacking us. This reaction cannot be removed from our memory. However, we can create new behaviors and memories which give us options for better, less angry and more controlled behaviors.
Getting your anger and angry reaction under control takes time. Our program is ten sessions long. It begins with an assessment examination measuring your Assertive skills, your Empathy level, your Stress Management skills, your interpersonal Aggression level, your level of Deference and your Motivation to succeed to improve your behavior. At the end of the last session we repeat the assessment examination to measure the improvement.
Isn’t it time you got your Anger under control? Isn't it time to improve your relationships? Isn't it time to have a better life?
For more information, please contact me
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management Training
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
Our clients come from every walk of life: average men and women just like you, husbands and wives, boyfriends and girlfriends, male or female gays, adolescents and even senior citizens.
And it matters not what education level you have attained. People with elementary and high school, college, graduate school, law school and medical school all exhibit Anger and the Angry Reaction.
My client list includes average people, students, educated people, physicians and attorneys, scientists and, yes, even several PhD’s.
We offer a skill enhancement program divided into four components: the first is Gaining Control where we teach you the tools necessary to control your behavior. This is akin to the first aid for anger; next is improving your Stress Management skills. Again we teach you the tools necessary to control your stress; this is followed by learning about Emotional Intelligence (EQ).
Emotional Intelligence means your ability to understand and be aware of your own emotions and managing your behavior accordingly, as well as your ability to understand the emotions of anyone with whom you’re in any kind of relationship and managing those relationships appropriately; lastly, we teach about Improving Communications, how to speak clearly and honestly, how to be assertive, how to listen actively and how to carefully acknowledge another person’s communications.
When a problem exists in any or all of these four major areas, the resultant behavior can be the angry reaction which in many cases may be catastrophic and violent, placing our relationships, our families or even our marriages and intimate relationships in jeopardy.
Anger is a normal emotion designed to protect us and keep us alive.
The Angry Reaction is the way we exhibit Anger the emotion. This reaction is an automatic behavioral pattern learned early in childhood which remains with us as we grow older into adolescence and adulthood.
The Angry Reaction is a memory in our brains which exhibits itself ONLY when we sense we are being attacked (hence the protection mentioned above). This memory will remain with us for our entire life.
The problems begin and continue when the Angry Reaction becomes aggression towards the person attacking us. This reaction cannot be removed from our memory. However, we can create new behaviors and memories which give us options for better, less angry and more controlled behaviors.
Getting your anger and angry reaction under control takes time. Our program is ten sessions long. It begins with an assessment examination measuring your Assertive skills, your Empathy level, your Stress Management skills, your interpersonal Aggression level, your level of Deference and your Motivation to succeed to improve your behavior. At the end of the last session we repeat the assessment examination to measure the improvement.
Isn’t it time you got your Anger under control? Isn't it time to improve your relationships? Isn't it time to have a better life?
For more information, please contact me
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management Training
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
Wednesday, August 22, 2012
A CLIENT'S TESTIMONIAL
Dr. Steven Sinert’s program in Anger Management has enhanced my life. I’m basically a good person, but I had a temper. People could push my buttons and get me to respond with anger. The worst part is that it would then make them look like the victim.
Dr. Sinert has taught me how to handle situations like these. He has taught me how to keep myself calm, and then respond appropriately. After I took Steven’s course I utilized his techniques when someone was trying to be very controlling and offend me. When I responded as Steven had taught me, the person ended up getting so angry that he lost his temper and stormed out, while I stayed calm.
As an attorney dealing in family law, matters can get very emotional. Sometimes the attorneys can get angry as well. In the past I reacted badly to matters like this, and found myself yelling and screaming. After one hearing, my boss made me send an apology letter to both the judge and the opposing attorney. Since taking Steven’s course, I have been able to stay calm even when other people in Court are screaming at me.
Just this past week I had situation that could have been resolved if the parties could just sit down and talk for a few minutes. The attorney who represented the other side wanted it to appear that we had been uncooperative, and then asked the Judge to order us to pay his attorney’s fees because we were the ones who had been uncooperative.
When one of my law partners tried to speak to him, the other attorney insulted my partner and my client. My partner ended up hanging up on him. Before we went to Court, I asked the attorney if he and his client would sit down with me and my client and my other partner. I calmly led the discussion.
The other attorney started insulting my client, and then screaming and swearing at my client and my other partner; and my client and my other partner stood up and argued back. I kept asking everyone to calm down, while I worked on solutions to settle the matter. By the time we went before the judge, my client and the mother of his child had agreed to everything, with the exception that the other attorney still wanted my client to pay his fees.
He tried to argue to the judge that we were the losing party because w ehad come to an agreement with him. The judge completely disagreed. The judge ordered that because everything had been settled, there was no losing or winning party, and he did not award the attorney the fees he had been seeking.
If not for the techniques that I had learned from Dr. Sinert's program, I might have been goaded into anger. Instead my calm demeanor made both me and my client successful.
I am also very grateful for how Steven’s techniques have improved the way I interact with people outside of work. I was known at synagogue for occasionally losing my temper. Now I am able to stay so calm that my rabbi has asked me for advice on how I stay so calm. My wife also is very happy with what I have been taught by Steven in dealing with difficult issues.
I will always be extremely grateful for everything that Steven has taught me, and how he has helped to improve my life. I cannot recommend his anger management course highly enough. Anyone who follows Steven’s teachings will be sure to find themselves and the people with whom they interact much happier in life.
D. H., Attorney
Dr. Steven Sinert’s program in Anger Management has enhanced my life. I’m basically a good person, but I had a temper. People could push my buttons and get me to respond with anger. The worst part is that it would then make them look like the victim.
Dr. Sinert has taught me how to handle situations like these. He has taught me how to keep myself calm, and then respond appropriately. After I took Steven’s course I utilized his techniques when someone was trying to be very controlling and offend me. When I responded as Steven had taught me, the person ended up getting so angry that he lost his temper and stormed out, while I stayed calm.
As an attorney dealing in family law, matters can get very emotional. Sometimes the attorneys can get angry as well. In the past I reacted badly to matters like this, and found myself yelling and screaming. After one hearing, my boss made me send an apology letter to both the judge and the opposing attorney. Since taking Steven’s course, I have been able to stay calm even when other people in Court are screaming at me.
Just this past week I had situation that could have been resolved if the parties could just sit down and talk for a few minutes. The attorney who represented the other side wanted it to appear that we had been uncooperative, and then asked the Judge to order us to pay his attorney’s fees because we were the ones who had been uncooperative.
When one of my law partners tried to speak to him, the other attorney insulted my partner and my client. My partner ended up hanging up on him. Before we went to Court, I asked the attorney if he and his client would sit down with me and my client and my other partner. I calmly led the discussion.
The other attorney started insulting my client, and then screaming and swearing at my client and my other partner; and my client and my other partner stood up and argued back. I kept asking everyone to calm down, while I worked on solutions to settle the matter. By the time we went before the judge, my client and the mother of his child had agreed to everything, with the exception that the other attorney still wanted my client to pay his fees.
He tried to argue to the judge that we were the losing party because w ehad come to an agreement with him. The judge completely disagreed. The judge ordered that because everything had been settled, there was no losing or winning party, and he did not award the attorney the fees he had been seeking.
If not for the techniques that I had learned from Dr. Sinert's program, I might have been goaded into anger. Instead my calm demeanor made both me and my client successful.
I am also very grateful for how Steven’s techniques have improved the way I interact with people outside of work. I was known at synagogue for occasionally losing my temper. Now I am able to stay so calm that my rabbi has asked me for advice on how I stay so calm. My wife also is very happy with what I have been taught by Steven in dealing with difficult issues.
I will always be extremely grateful for everything that Steven has taught me, and how he has helped to improve my life. I cannot recommend his anger management course highly enough. Anyone who follows Steven’s teachings will be sure to find themselves and the people with whom they interact much happier in life.
D. H., Attorney
A CLIENT's TESTIMONIAL
Not only did Dr. Sinert's Anger Management Class assist me in controlling my anger. It also helped me improve my relationships with other people.
The class taught me new techniques on how to handle anger and stress. The class also taught me how to communicate more honestly and assertively in my every day relationships.
The class taught me skills in empathy and emotional intelligence.
I think that everybody could use a class like this as communication is one of the most important skills we have to learn. Many of the techniques taught in this class I have never been taught before.
Again, thank you, Dr. Sinert, for all your help.
Beth S.
Not only did Dr. Sinert's Anger Management Class assist me in controlling my anger. It also helped me improve my relationships with other people.
The class taught me new techniques on how to handle anger and stress. The class also taught me how to communicate more honestly and assertively in my every day relationships.
The class taught me skills in empathy and emotional intelligence.
I think that everybody could use a class like this as communication is one of the most important skills we have to learn. Many of the techniques taught in this class I have never been taught before.
Again, thank you, Dr. Sinert, for all your help.
Beth S.
Tuesday, August 21, 2012
WHEN DO I GET THE MOST CALLS FOR ANGER MANAGEMENT?
Interestingly, most of the inquiries I receive for ANGER MANAGEMENT are on Mondays or on the days right after a holiday like Thanksgiving, Christmas or New Years.
The weekends and holiday periods are usually spent relaxing and inter-relating with our intimate partners, family and friends. Sometimes alcohol is part of the celebration of time off from work and relaxing. Alcoholic beverages (which reduce our inhibitions) also limit our connectivity between the limbic system (the emotional part of our brain) and the rational part (the thinking part).
We tend to become more angry at these times, hence the increased number of calls following the weekends or holidays.
If you notice more anger over weekends or holidays, call me. I can help.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812S. Pecos Road – Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702353 1750
Email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
Interestingly, most of the inquiries I receive for ANGER MANAGEMENT are on Mondays or on the days right after a holiday like Thanksgiving, Christmas or New Years.
The weekends and holiday periods are usually spent relaxing and inter-relating with our intimate partners, family and friends. Sometimes alcohol is part of the celebration of time off from work and relaxing. Alcoholic beverages (which reduce our inhibitions) also limit our connectivity between the limbic system (the emotional part of our brain) and the rational part (the thinking part).
We tend to become more angry at these times, hence the increased number of calls following the weekends or holidays.
If you notice more anger over weekends or holidays, call me. I can help.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812S. Pecos Road – Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702353 1750
Email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
THE EMOTIONAL BRAIN and THE RATIONAL BRAIN
The human brain has many intricate parts. It is a very amazing computer. There are a few parts I'd like to talk about here.
One part is the rational or THINKING BRAIN where our thought processes reside. The other part is the EMOTIONAL BRAIN, also known as the LIMBIC SYSTEM, where our emotions live. Anger is one of those emotions. The emotional brain is deep within the rational brain.
When we sense we're being attacked either verbally, physically or psychologically or emotionally, the specific part of the emotional brain known as the AMYGDALA hijacks or shuts down the thinking brain. That's why we may find it difficult or even impossible to recall the details of our angry response or the argument that caused us to get angry in the first place. This shut-down of the thinking brain is a disconnect of the two parts. It's almost like pulling the plug on your computer: it's still sitting exactly where it was however it's just not working.
When this disconnect of the thinking brain occurs, the emotional brain takes over the protection of our bodies and ANGER comes to the surface in order to protect us. Anger is a protective and quite normal emotion. This response occurs very quickly, perhaps in as little as 1 - 2 seconds.
The ANGRY REACTION is a behavioral response we learned as a child when we saw attacks upon others, usually in our families. This is a record of those events, a memory if you will, and is fully set with in us by age two - three.
We carry this response, this behavior, into our adolescent and adult years and it serves to protect us when we're attacked throughout our lives.
However, that response in many cases is in-appropriate behavior.
So what do we need to do to help control our anger?
We need to learn about those attacks coming at us, how to instantaneously recognize them, how to reconnect the emotional and rational parts of the brain and we need to learn new behaviors so we will not get angry with that maladaptive behavior when attacked. Remember we only have 1 - 2 seconds before we get angry. We don't have the time to think about the attack or how we should respond.
Our ANGER MANAGEMENT program teaches how to reconnect and what we need to know to control our STRESSES, enhance our EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE and improve our COMMUNICATION skills. With this knowledge, our new behavior will become automatic so we don't really have to think about it.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812S. Pecos Road – Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
Email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
The human brain has many intricate parts. It is a very amazing computer. There are a few parts I'd like to talk about here.
One part is the rational or THINKING BRAIN where our thought processes reside. The other part is the EMOTIONAL BRAIN, also known as the LIMBIC SYSTEM, where our emotions live. Anger is one of those emotions. The emotional brain is deep within the rational brain.
When we sense we're being attacked either verbally, physically or psychologically or emotionally, the specific part of the emotional brain known as the AMYGDALA hijacks or shuts down the thinking brain. That's why we may find it difficult or even impossible to recall the details of our angry response or the argument that caused us to get angry in the first place. This shut-down of the thinking brain is a disconnect of the two parts. It's almost like pulling the plug on your computer: it's still sitting exactly where it was however it's just not working.
When this disconnect of the thinking brain occurs, the emotional brain takes over the protection of our bodies and ANGER comes to the surface in order to protect us. Anger is a protective and quite normal emotion. This response occurs very quickly, perhaps in as little as 1 - 2 seconds.
The ANGRY REACTION is a behavioral response we learned as a child when we saw attacks upon others, usually in our families. This is a record of those events, a memory if you will, and is fully set with in us by age two - three.
We carry this response, this behavior, into our adolescent and adult years and it serves to protect us when we're attacked throughout our lives.
However, that response in many cases is in-appropriate behavior.
So what do we need to do to help control our anger?
We need to learn about those attacks coming at us, how to instantaneously recognize them, how to reconnect the emotional and rational parts of the brain and we need to learn new behaviors so we will not get angry with that maladaptive behavior when attacked. Remember we only have 1 - 2 seconds before we get angry. We don't have the time to think about the attack or how we should respond.
Our ANGER MANAGEMENT program teaches how to reconnect and what we need to know to control our STRESSES, enhance our EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE and improve our COMMUNICATION skills. With this knowledge, our new behavior will become automatic so we don't really have to think about it.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812S. Pecos Road – Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
Email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
Wednesday, August 15, 2012
HOW DOES OUR SELF ESTEEM AFFECT OUR BEHAVIOR?
SELF-ESTEEM means how an individual feels about their self-worth. If they have low self-esteem they tend to hold things in. People are generally not assertive with low self-esteem and as a result they may not know how to express their feelings and needs. Even in those who do know how, fear of hurting another person often prevents them from being assertive in their communications with others.
The only time we get angry is when we sense we're being attacked. Those attacks are most commonly verbal attacks, but can also be physical or psychological or emotional.
Attacks are hurtful to us. If we are unable to express our feelings of hurt, and our needs, to the individual attacking us how are they supposed to know what we feel and need? The answer is they may not and as a result will continue to hurt us, causing us pain and anger.
When people are plagued by low self-esteem and they're not assertive, they will generally hold their anger in instead of expressing it in an appropriate manner. When this happens the stress of the attack and subsequent anger will build pressure within them, much like the lava in a volcano building pressure, and the next time or at some subsequent time, they will explode in rage, a serious form of anger.
For more information, please contact
Dr.Steven J. Sinert, Certified Anger Management Provider
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road – Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
SELF-ESTEEM means how an individual feels about their self-worth. If they have low self-esteem they tend to hold things in. People are generally not assertive with low self-esteem and as a result they may not know how to express their feelings and needs. Even in those who do know how, fear of hurting another person often prevents them from being assertive in their communications with others.
The only time we get angry is when we sense we're being attacked. Those attacks are most commonly verbal attacks, but can also be physical or psychological or emotional.
Attacks are hurtful to us. If we are unable to express our feelings of hurt, and our needs, to the individual attacking us how are they supposed to know what we feel and need? The answer is they may not and as a result will continue to hurt us, causing us pain and anger.
When people are plagued by low self-esteem and they're not assertive, they will generally hold their anger in instead of expressing it in an appropriate manner. When this happens the stress of the attack and subsequent anger will build pressure within them, much like the lava in a volcano building pressure, and the next time or at some subsequent time, they will explode in rage, a serious form of anger.
For more information, please contact
Dr.Steven J. Sinert, Certified Anger Management Provider
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road – Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
OUR BUILT IN STOP SIGN!
We have built into us and automatic STOP sign which sets limits on our behaviors. This stop sign is called FEAR!
As humans, we fear many things: the loss of our lives, our health, our husbands and wives or other mates, our parents, our children, our jobs, our homes, our money...even our freedoms. Fear is the most important factor in creating our anger.
Often, we are faced with making changes in our behaviors but fear will prevent us from doing this because we don't know how we'll respond with the new behavior.
Don't allow your fears to control and guide your behaviors! The next time you get angry, take a deep breath and ask yourself, "What am I afraid of?" Then try and put that fear to rest and get back on track with your life without anger. If you need help, please call me.
For more information, please contact
Dr.Steven J. Sinert, Certified Anger Management Provider
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812S. Pecos Road – Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
Email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
We have built into us and automatic STOP sign which sets limits on our behaviors. This stop sign is called FEAR!
As humans, we fear many things: the loss of our lives, our health, our husbands and wives or other mates, our parents, our children, our jobs, our homes, our money...even our freedoms. Fear is the most important factor in creating our anger.
Often, we are faced with making changes in our behaviors but fear will prevent us from doing this because we don't know how we'll respond with the new behavior.
Don't allow your fears to control and guide your behaviors! The next time you get angry, take a deep breath and ask yourself, "What am I afraid of?" Then try and put that fear to rest and get back on track with your life without anger. If you need help, please call me.
For more information, please contact
Dr.Steven J. Sinert, Certified Anger Management Provider
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812S. Pecos Road – Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
Email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
Tuesday, August 14, 2012
CAN I GET THIS ANGER MANAGEMENT PROGRAM ANYWHERE ELSE?
This Anger Management Program is taught and administered by a Certified Anger Management professional who has specific training in its content.
This program is NOT therapy, but rather a skill enhancement program. It is a teaching program designed to create your ability to control your anger, improve your stress management skill, enhance your emotional intelligence and improve your communication skills.
As a teaching program it may or may not be available from other sources but not to the degree taught here. It is more difficult if not impossible to learn what we teach by reading a book alone. It's like learning to play a musical instrument. You cannot do that by reading a book.
The program is easy for most people.
Isn't it time to get your anger under control so you can enjoy a healthier life?
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified Anger Management Provider
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road – Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
Email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
This Anger Management Program is taught and administered by a Certified Anger Management professional who has specific training in its content.
This program is NOT therapy, but rather a skill enhancement program. It is a teaching program designed to create your ability to control your anger, improve your stress management skill, enhance your emotional intelligence and improve your communication skills.
As a teaching program it may or may not be available from other sources but not to the degree taught here. It is more difficult if not impossible to learn what we teach by reading a book alone. It's like learning to play a musical instrument. You cannot do that by reading a book.
The program is easy for most people.
Isn't it time to get your anger under control so you can enjoy a healthier life?
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified Anger Management Provider
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road – Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
Email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
THE ANGER MANAGEMENT ASSESSMENT EXAMINATION
The Anger Management Assessment examination is a written test designed by The Conover Company. It is a profile or barometer of an individual's skill and behavior in six areas:
1) Interpersonal Assertion
2) Empathy
3) Stress Management
4) Interpersonal Aggression
5) Deference
6) Motivation
The examination takes about ten minutes after which it is scored with the results explained to the student in the form of an Anger Management Map. Another version of this examination is sometimes used for more difficult cases and may take longer.
YOU CANNOT FAIL THIS EXAMINATION!
The importance of the assessment is to define your skills in the areas mentioned prior to the Anger Management training. At the conclusion of the training, the same examination is again given, scored and explained so that we have a before and after evaluation to measure your progress.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified Anger Management Provider
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road – Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
Email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
The Anger Management Assessment examination is a written test designed by The Conover Company. It is a profile or barometer of an individual's skill and behavior in six areas:
1) Interpersonal Assertion
2) Empathy
3) Stress Management
4) Interpersonal Aggression
5) Deference
6) Motivation
The examination takes about ten minutes after which it is scored with the results explained to the student in the form of an Anger Management Map. Another version of this examination is sometimes used for more difficult cases and may take longer.
YOU CANNOT FAIL THIS EXAMINATION!
The importance of the assessment is to define your skills in the areas mentioned prior to the Anger Management training. At the conclusion of the training, the same examination is again given, scored and explained so that we have a before and after evaluation to measure your progress.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified Anger Management Provider
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road – Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
Email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
GROUP SESSIONS or PRIVATE?
OK, you have now realized that you have anger issues and need an Anger Management program. This is a huge decision for most of us because we tend to blame others for our anger. This may be true but the fact is that when we get angry it’s our behavior that needs changing. We need to learn how to respond to the behavior of others.
The next question is shall I take group or private sessions?
Our group sessions are small with a maximum of only four students. We tend to learn together in group sessions. The teacher’s time is divided among all the students present.
Our private sessions are more intense with the teacher spending all of his time with only one student, or in the case of private couple’s counseling, with only one couple alone and no one else present in the class.
Either way, the program is ten sessions long, usually one hour each, for a total of ten hours.
Private sessions for Physicians, Attorneys and Business Executive students may be longer in duration.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified Anger Management Provider
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road – Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
Email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
OK, you have now realized that you have anger issues and need an Anger Management program. This is a huge decision for most of us because we tend to blame others for our anger. This may be true but the fact is that when we get angry it’s our behavior that needs changing. We need to learn how to respond to the behavior of others.
The next question is shall I take group or private sessions?
Our group sessions are small with a maximum of only four students. We tend to learn together in group sessions. The teacher’s time is divided among all the students present.
Our private sessions are more intense with the teacher spending all of his time with only one student, or in the case of private couple’s counseling, with only one couple alone and no one else present in the class.
Either way, the program is ten sessions long, usually one hour each, for a total of ten hours.
Private sessions for Physicians, Attorneys and Business Executive students may be longer in duration.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified Anger Management Provider
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road – Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
Email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
THE ANGER MANAGEMENT PROGRAM
Our Anger Management program is not therapy! Rather it’s SKILL ENHANCEMENT which means it’s a teaching course. It’s been designed to teach the student how to change his/her behavior.
The first part is called “GAINING CONTROL”. This is where we teach about negative behaviors and how they contribute to our anger. This is immediately followed by the positive behaviors which are the responses one should use to counter the negative ones which come at us as attacks and stresses, or which we use toward others which create a conflict and the angry reaction in others.
Next comes “STRESS MANAGEMENT”. Stress is a precursor to frustration and the angry reaction. We teach about stress awareness, acceptance and coping skills.
This is followed by “EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE” (EQ) training. Everyone has some degree of EQ. This training is an enhancement of what we already have but few of us use in our interpersonal relationships.
Emotional Intelligence really means understanding our own emotions and managing our behaviors based on those emotions, then understanding the emotions of others and managing our behaviors in those relationships.
Finally, we have included lectures on improving our “COMMUNICATION SKILLS” so that we can become better listeners and speakers and avoid miscommunications.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified Anger Management Provider
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road – Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
Email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
CONFLICT RESOLUTION
The definition of conflict is fight a, battle or war; an antagonistic state or action; a mental struggle resulting from opposing feelings or needs, wishes, or external or internal demands.
To further simplify it, a conflict can be an argument where two or more individuals have differing opinions. One person says one thing and the other says something different and opposing to the first person.
It’s like a table tennis game: one person hits the ball to the second and then the second returns it to the first. This back and forth volleying is the same in an argument or conflict.
One person says something and the second person perceives what has been said as an attack and hits it back or tries to defend himself or herself. This back and forth volleying of perceived attacks and defenses is an argument or conflict.
Control is a behavioral pattern which is inherent in the human species. However, controlling behavior toward another individual is most likely perceived as an attack leading to an argument, anger and conflict all of which can escalate into violence.
Our Anger Management program is designed to reduce aggression, improve Interpersonal Assertive skills, improve Empathy, improve Stress Management skills, reduce Interpersonal Aggression and improve Communication skills all with the goal in mind of reducing anger and conflict.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified Anger Management Provider
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road – Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
Email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
Monday, August 13, 2012
TESTIMONIAL FROM A CLIENT
Dr. Sinert,
"If there were more people like you in the world, there'd be more smiles like mine!"
Joe R
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Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified Anger Management Provider
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89052
702 353 1750
email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
THE FOLLOWING IS AN ACTUAL LETTER RECEIVED FROM A CLIENT TODAY, AUGUST 13, 2012
Dr. Steven J. Sinert
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road
Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
Dear Dr. Sinert,
It has been a few weeks since my final ANGER MANAGEMENT class. I am pleased to report that my life continues to improve.
I came to you out of desperation. At 65 years old and retired my life was out of control. I was not happy. I was taking my frustration out on the people I love the most. My marriage of 42 years was coming apart, and I had very little relationship left with my 91-year-old Mother.
I tried a number of professionals in the world of psychiatry, psychology, counseling intervention, and military assistance with PTSD. Nothing was working for me, and I was absolutely miserable.
After finding your listing on a “Google” search of the web I made an appointment. It was to be a life-saving change for me. I’m glad I proceeded on after our first meeting.
The education I obtained from you was dramatic. I learned why I was always so stressed out and angry. I learned about the fears I have that I was consciously unaware of and why they were there. You taught me why the same things made me madder and madder each time they occurred and why I lashed out at others so often. Finally, I learned why I was a hermit who hid at home, refused to talk to anyone, and shunned contact with anyone but my Wife.
After explaining the entirety of the “Why’s” you began to build me up by teaching me how to change these aspects of my life. Over the weeks as we talked, and I read the books and articles you gave me, I began to see the light. Slowly, I am taking back my life. I am changing the old ways by my understanding of why they were there. My attitude is positive and one that is no longer aggressive and combative. I now know that I am not “The keeper of the keys to the kingdom”. You have helped me to a path of freedom to be a person and enjoy my life with my Wife and the world I live in.
I am not sure how to say thanks to you. I can say that I will think of you and your teachings, suggestions, and with me the “push” to find myself.
I still have a good deal to learn and much to master. My progress is measured by inches and not by miles. Every day that I go to bed not having had an anger issue with my wife is one more day of learning to think before I speak and to discuss my issues in a non-aggressive way.
So, I will end this was a very sincere THANK YOU. Plus, the promise to you that anyone I know or meet with the kind of problems I have will get your name and telephone number.
My Regards,
Bill
For more information, contact me at
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified Anger Management Provider
5812 S. Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
Anger Management, The Missing Link In Organizational Development
A careful review of the curricula at major Graduate Programs in Organizational Development reveals that none of these programs offer specific training in anger management assessment and intervention. Further, when examining training announcements in on-line marketing, anger management, workplace violence prevention and conflict resolution are listed as courses available to organizational clients.
While the need for anger management is recognized, the need for legitimate training in anger management facilitation is treated as if it is a natural skill for anyone without training or certification.
This failure to recognize the need for training and competence in anger management is not limited to Organizational Development. This is equally true in Substance Abuse Treatment as well as Employee Assistance Programs and Human Resource Management.
Evidenced Based Anger Management Programs include much more than anger management. Anger Management Programs offer pre-training and post-training assessment examinations which delineate the individual’s skills in Interpersonal Assertion, Empathy, Stress Management, Aggression, Deference and Motivation and Emotional Intelligence.
The Emotional Intelligence assessment measures your:
SELF-AWARENESS – How in tune are you with your feeings? Can you pinpoint your emotional strengths and weaknesses and make good decisions for your life based on your own emotions?
Self-Control (also know as SELF MANAGEMENT) – This is the ability to balance your emotions, as well as use your emotions to set goals, create plans and motivate yourself to achieve your goals. It is the ability to control your emotions and your behavior to help you in a situation, rather than hinder your progress. This includes the ability to delay gratification and reward in order to focus on your task at hand.
Social Awareness – This is commonly referred to as “empathy.” It is the ability to understand the emotional nature of those around you – a friend, partner, boss or your children – and to use that knowledge to create better relationships.
Relationship Management – Are you able to sense the feeling and needs of others? How well do you react to the emotions of others and read the proper signals in order to successfully handle social situations, solve relationship problems, learn to motivate others, create cooperation and teamwork?
Certified Anger Management Facilitators trained in Organizational Development greatly increase the positive behavior of employees and the success of their employers.
[Adapted from George Anderson]
For more information, please contact
Dr.Steven J. Sinert, Certified Anger Management Provider
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road – Suite B
LasVegas, NV 89120
702353 1750
Email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
THE TRICKLE DOWN EFFECT OCCURS IN ORGANIZATIONAL ANGER
The nation’s current angry mood appears to trickle down to most aspects of our society including the Faith Community as well as the Justice System. The Congressional verbal aggression and violence has pervaded our collective consciousness and is rapidly clouding our civility and sense of reasonableness.
Anger Management providers nationwide are experiencing an increase in self-referrals especially from professionals working in the service industry where interpersonal relationships are necessary for continued success. Often, it is the significant person in one’s life who is supporting the need for professional help.
Certified Anger Management Facilitators provide Anger Management Coaching in private sessions or in small group classes, measuring success by administering pre-training and post-training assessment examinations which delineate Interpersonal Assertion, Empathy, Stress Management, Aggression, Deference and Motivation. Additional assessments in Emotional Intelligence are also used.
[Adapted from George Anderson]
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified Anger Management Provider
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812S. Pecos Road – Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702353 1750
Email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
PRACTICAL USES OF EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE AT WORK
1. LEARN AND PRACTICE OPTIMISM FOR SUCCESS.
Learn to see the donut, not the hole. To do more than survive, to thrive in a world of accelerating change and uncertainty, we need to respond well to adversity. Optimism is a skill just like listening than can be learned and perfected over time.
2. POSITIVE SELF-TALK; TALK YOURSELF OUT OF DEFEAT
The way we talk to ourselves can and does affect our sense of well-being and our ability to motivate ourselves in the face of challenge. By striving to be optimistic and learning to replace negative self-talk with positive self-talk we will bring about a more productive and creative climate at work and help participants to be more proactive in taking control of themselves.
3. THE ART OF LETTING GO: YOU’LL NEVER BE A BUTTERFLY IF YOU CAN’T STOP BEING A CATERPILLAR.
It is important to learn to tackle the essence of coping effectively with change and letting go of old ways of thinking and behaving. Challenging existing concepts enables you to understand your own resistance to change.
4. MANAGING UNHEALTHY ANGER: YOU CAN’T ALWAYS GET WHAT YOU WANT.
Many people have difficulty managing their anger. Frustrations build up in the fast-changing workplace where roles are not always well defined and job security no longer exists.
Anger usually results from frustration. Frustration results from feeling disappointed or unable to control or improve your situation. A sense of control is a basic human need. Frustration behaves like an emotional virus, infecting everyone.
5. INCREASING SENSITIVITY: TAKE A LOOK AT THE EMOTIONAL LANDSCAPE.
In a stressful work environment, it is easy to ignore the mood and morale of our co-workers. People rarely communicate how they feel. However, being insensitive to the needs and feeling of others makes it hard to gain their support and enthusiasm. The ability to recognize our own feelings and the emotions of those around us is a key step in developing emotional literacy.
Emotions bring people together. Our emotions are perhaps the greatest potential source of uniting all members of the human race. Empathy, Compassion, Cooperation and Forgiveness together have the potential to unite us as people. Our thoughts may tend to divide us, whereas our emotions, if given the chance, will unite us.
[Adapted from George Anderson]
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified Anger Management Provider
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812S. Pecos Road – Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702353 1750
Email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
Emotional Intelligence and Anger Management – The Key to Improving Relationships
In spite of the popularity of self-help books, motivational speakers as well as Advice Gurus, Certified Anger Management Facilitators who specialize in individual and couples coaching are most effective in teaching the needed skills in ANGER MANAGEMENT, STRESS MANAGEMENT, EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE, COMMUNICATIONS.
Persons who have deficits in assertive communication, empathy, compassion, listening skills, stress management or civility are almost always vulnerable to problems in interpersonal relationships at work or in intimate relationships.
Individual or Couples Coaching begins with a pre-training individual assessment examination followed by skill enhancement coaching in the areas in which change is needed. Client workbooks are used for couples and individuals.
At the end of the program, usually ten sessions, a post-training assessment examination will document the improvement.
(Adapted from George Anderson)
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified Anger Management Provider
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812S. Pecos Road – Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
Email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement
Anger Is Not a Mental Illness
According to the American Psychiatric Association, anger is a normal human emotion. Everyone gets angry from time to time. Anger is seen as a problem when it is too intense, lasts too long, impacts health, affects interpersonal relationships, occurs too frequently or leads to person or property directed aggression.
Mild forms of human anger may include displeasure, irritation or dislike. When we react to frustration, criticism or a threat, we may become angry – and usually this is a healthy response. Anger is a secondary emotion that is a common reaction to stress. Anger may be a response to feeling sad, lonely or frightened. When anger becomes full-blown rage our judgment and thinking can become impaired and we are more likely to do and say unreasonable and irrational things.
While anger may be a symptom of many mental and physical illnesses, anger is not listed in the latest edition of the Statistical Manual of Nervous and Mental Disorders (DSM 5). Therefore, it is unreasonable to attempt to offer counseling, psychotherapy or psychotropic medication for anger.
Attempting to diagnose poor impulse control as mental illnesses detracts from the very real, very serious and very dangerous mental illnesses that are indeed caused by very terrible things that happen within sufferers’ brains. Unlike schizophrenia that can’t be willed away, the angry reaction is a learned skill. Any skill that is learned can be replaced with a more useful skill.
Skills in MANAGING STRESS and IMPROVING COMMUNICATIONS are extremely useful in managing anger.
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE-BASED ANGER MANAGEMENT COACHING is also a very appropriate skill enhancement intervention for self-awareness, self-control, social awareness, empathy and relationship management. All of these skills are critical for proper impulse control. Anger management is a procedure for acquiring the skills to recognize signs that you are becoming angry, and taking action to deal with the situation in a positive way. In no way does anger management mean holding the anger in or trying to keep from feeling anger.
[Adapted from George Anderson]
For more information, please contact
Dr.Steven J. Sinert, Certified Anger Management Provider
NevadaAnger Management, LLC
5812S. Pecos Road – Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
Email: dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
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