IS ANGER A NORMAL EMOTION?
ANGER is a normal emotion designed to protect us and keep us alive. It should be differentiated from THE ANGRY REACTION which is a behavior pattern that is usually learned in early childhood and which is the aggressive reaction to the perception we are being attacked. That attack is most commonly verbal, but can also be physical, psychological or emotional.
Fear is certainly one of the precursors to the angry reaction (and may be most important) but so are other primary emotions such as frustration, inability to communicate assertively, low self-esteem, lack of empathy for others, unresolved stresses of all kinds, excessive aggressiveness and high levels of deference which is giving your rights to others to make decisions for you which may not be what you really want.
Additionally, some individuals show toxic behavior to others such as controlling, manipulative or other hurtful behaviors which are perceived as attacks.
As humans we fear many things: loss of our lives, loss of our mates, loss of our children, loss of our parents, loss of jobs, loss of our homes, loss of our money...even loss of our freedoms and way of life. Yes, FEAR guides our behaviors in many ways and it certainly is in my opinion the most important factor causing the angry reaction. However, it is not by far the only cause.
Anger Management is not therapy! It is training to teach the angry person the tools necessary to change their behavior. It is NOT psychological counseling or psychiatric treatment with medication unless there are underlying mental conditions.
Just because a person gets angry does NOT mean they are mentally ill or crazy. It does in fact mean they have never learned how to behave appropriately in society.
So every ANGER MANAGEMENT PROGRAM should begin with a written assessment (an examination) which measures certain parameters of an individual's behavior: assertiveness, empathy, stress management skills, interpersonal aggression, deference and their motivation to succeed at making the changes necessary to control their anger. That examination assessment should be administered at the end of the training as well to compare the results to the initial examination.
Lastly, every ANGER MANAGEMENT PROGRAM should include 1) the Tools necessary to control the angry reaction, 2) Stress Management training, 3) enhancing Emotional Intelligence and 4) improving Communication skills. Without these areas of training, anger management would be of little value.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC,
5812 S. Pecos Rd – Suite B
Las Vegas, Nevada 89120
702 353 1750
dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
Wednesday, December 12, 2012
A STUDENT’S TESTIMONIAL
“Before taking this program I felt frustrated and unable to deal with the stress and anger I felt in my day to day dealings with others at work, socially and at home.
During my time with Dr. Sinert I became more conscious of how different circumstances impacted my emotions and also the perception that I had of myself and my general self esteem. He opened the door for me with the right tools to not only better understand myself but also how to deal with the natural feeling of anger and stress in a healthy way. He taught me how to express my feelings and needs in an effective way thereby controlling my anger. Thank you again Dr Sinert for this gift.” AG ,MD
For more information on our Anger Management, Self Esteem or Emotional Intelligence programs, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 South Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89052
702 353 1750
dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
Serving physicians, attorneys, business executives, individuals or couples in groups or privately in our office conveniently located to Las Vegas, Henderson, and Boulder City.
Dr. Sinert is available for speaking engagements.
“Before taking this program I felt frustrated and unable to deal with the stress and anger I felt in my day to day dealings with others at work, socially and at home.
During my time with Dr. Sinert I became more conscious of how different circumstances impacted my emotions and also the perception that I had of myself and my general self esteem. He opened the door for me with the right tools to not only better understand myself but also how to deal with the natural feeling of anger and stress in a healthy way. He taught me how to express my feelings and needs in an effective way thereby controlling my anger. Thank you again Dr Sinert for this gift.” AG ,MD
For more information on our Anger Management, Self Esteem or Emotional Intelligence programs, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 South Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89052
702 353 1750
dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
Serving physicians, attorneys, business executives, individuals or couples in groups or privately in our office conveniently located to Las Vegas, Henderson, and Boulder City.
Dr. Sinert is available for speaking engagements.
Monday, December 10, 2012
'TIS THE SEASON...
'Tis the season to be happy, jolly and in good spirits. It may also be the season for us to become angry with loved ones, family, friends, co-workers and associates and... well, just about anyone else.
ANGER is a normal emotion designed to protect us and keep us alive.
The ANGRY REACTION is the behavior we use to express our anger and in many cases is inappropriate behavior. It's a behavior we've all learned in early childhood. It's aggressive behavior that for most of us needs to be changed.
The angry response begins with the perception that we're being attacked. That attack can be directed at us or at someone or something we care about. Most commonly, the attack comes at us verbally by someone saying something to us, but also can come at us physically, psychologically or emotionally.
The attacks that we perceive are hurtful behaviors by someone else or by us towards others. If they are towards us we may respond aggressively with the angry response. If the attacks are by us towards others their response toward us may be their own aggressive and angry response.
Why is there so much aggressive, attacking behavior between us? It's because we've never been taught how to respond in a better way. So, someone attacks us and we attack back and vice versa...until you learn about the attacks in an Anger Management program which includes the tools to Gain Control, the tools and methods to manage our Stress, the methods to enhance our Emotional Intelligence and the ways to improve our Communication skills.
It should be noted also that all attacks against us in any form are stresses and we need to learn how to resolve these stresses in a good way.
Anger Management is not difficult to learn but it does take some time and motivation.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
5812 S. Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
Serving clients directly in the Las Vegas, Henderson and Boulder City areas and nationwide with onsite training for disruptive physicians, disruptive attorneys and business executives.
'Tis the season to be happy, jolly and in good spirits. It may also be the season for us to become angry with loved ones, family, friends, co-workers and associates and... well, just about anyone else.
ANGER is a normal emotion designed to protect us and keep us alive.
The ANGRY REACTION is the behavior we use to express our anger and in many cases is inappropriate behavior. It's a behavior we've all learned in early childhood. It's aggressive behavior that for most of us needs to be changed.
The angry response begins with the perception that we're being attacked. That attack can be directed at us or at someone or something we care about. Most commonly, the attack comes at us verbally by someone saying something to us, but also can come at us physically, psychologically or emotionally.
The attacks that we perceive are hurtful behaviors by someone else or by us towards others. If they are towards us we may respond aggressively with the angry response. If the attacks are by us towards others their response toward us may be their own aggressive and angry response.
Why is there so much aggressive, attacking behavior between us? It's because we've never been taught how to respond in a better way. So, someone attacks us and we attack back and vice versa...until you learn about the attacks in an Anger Management program which includes the tools to Gain Control, the tools and methods to manage our Stress, the methods to enhance our Emotional Intelligence and the ways to improve our Communication skills.
It should be noted also that all attacks against us in any form are stresses and we need to learn how to resolve these stresses in a good way.
Anger Management is not difficult to learn but it does take some time and motivation.
For more information, please contact
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
5812 S. Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
dr.sinert@nevadaangermanagement.com
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
Serving clients directly in the Las Vegas, Henderson and Boulder City areas and nationwide with onsite training for disruptive physicians, disruptive attorneys and business executives.
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