The 90/10 Principle
Discover the 90/10 Principle…it will change your life (or at least the way you react to situations)…
What is the Principle?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you…90% is decided by how you react…
What does this mean?
We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us…We have no control over this 10%...
The other 90% is different…You determine the other 90%...
How? By your reactions…
You cannot control a red traffic light…However you can control how you react…
Do Not let people fool you…You can control how you react…
Let us use the following example…
Say you are having breakfast with your family…Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt…
You have no control over what just happened…
What happens next will be determined by how you react…
You curse!...You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over…She breaks down in tears…
After scolding her, you turn to your wife and you criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows…
You storm upstairs to change your shirt…
Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish her breakfast and to get ready to go to school…she misses the bus…
Your spouse must immediately leave for work…
You rush to your car and drive your daughter to school…
Because you’re late, you drive 40 miles per hour in a 30 mph speed limit zone…You get pulled over for speeding…after a 15 minute delay and a huge traffic fine…you finally get her to school late…
She jumps out of the car and runs into the school without saying goodbye to you…
After arriving at your office late you realize that you forgot your briefcase…
Your day has started terribly. As it continues it just gets worse and worse. You look forward to going home…
When you arrive home, you find a small wedge in your relationship between your wife and daughter…
Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning…
Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is D!
You had no control over what happened with the coffee…How you reacted in those five seconds is what caused your bad day…
Here is what could have and should have happened…
When the coffee splashes over you and your daughter is about to cry…You should gently say: “It’s okay honey. You just need to be more careful next time!”
Grabbing a towel you run upstairs to change your shirt…
You grab your briefcase and you come back downstairs in time to look out the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves goodbye with a smile…
You arrive at work five minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff…
Notice the difference?
Two different scenarios…Both started the same way…Both ended differently…Because of how you reacted!
You really have no control over 10% of what happens in your life…The other 90% was determined by your reaction…
Now you know the 90/10 Principle…Apply it in your own life and you will be amazed at the results…
This will cost you nothing except your desire to behave differently and have a better life…
The 90/10 Principle is incredible…
Very few people know and apply this Principle…
The result?
Try it yourself and see…
Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, anger, communication problems with others and a host of difficult situations…
We all must understand and apply the 90/10 Principle…
It can change your life!
It only takes a bit of will power to give ourselves permission to make the change in our behavior…
Absolutely everything we do, give, say or even think is like a boomerang…It will come back to us…and it may cause us grief in relationship problems at home, at work or elsewhere.
This is a simple way to help to control your behavior...we sense we're being attacked and we react to that attack with anger and aggression which are automatic behaviors learned and imbedded within us at a very early age...a better way is to understand our emotions and the emotions of others and respond to those events in our lives which we perceive as attacks...
The response is the new behavior...the reaction is the old...
Isn't it time for you to start responding differently? I can help!
Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120
702 353 1750
www.nevadaangermanagement.com
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