HURTFUL NEGATIVE BEHAVIOR #1 - CONTROL

The first Hurtful Negative Behavior I want to talk about is CONTROLLING BEHAVIOR.

So, what is Controlling Behavior?

It's making the other person do what you want rather than allowing them to do what they want. It's taking away a person's right to make their own decisions. Simply put, it's a POWER PLAY against someone else. It's aggressive and hurtful to the individual who is the object of the controlling behavior. Likewise, if that behavior is addressed towards us, it's just as hurtful.

Where does this behavior arise? It's a behavior pattern that is learned in early childhood and carried forth into adolescence and adulthood. We learn early on that by being controlling we can get what we want or need.

Aggressiveness is an attack upon us! Most people will respond to the attack by attacking back or running away. This is the well-known FIGHT OR FLIGHT response.

But aggression is not the only way to get what we want or need.

Learning EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE, STRESS MANAGEMENT techniques and improving our COMMUNICATION skills are all appropriate ways to reduce aggression. Instead of fighting back or running away, we need to understand how we feel about ourselves and how we feel about our self worth or self esteem. Additionally we need to understand the feelings of others.

All of this should be learned in an Anger Management program. I will continue to write about the other hurtful behaviors in future blogs and then I will switch to the good positive behaviors.

For more information, please contact

Dr. Steven J. Sinert, Certified in Anger Management
Nevada Anger Management, LLC
5812 S. Pecos Road, Suite B
Las Vegas, NV 89120

702 353 1750

www.nevadaangermanagement.com

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